I can totally identify. While some people seem to find that cutting out sugar, refined carbs, etc. makes them not crave those foods anymore, it just made me literally obsess over them. I felt so deprived.
I always felt like my eating habits were abnormal. Even though I am doing better on the binging side of things (fingers crossed), I don't have a normal relationship with food. I don't think I'm in danger of downing a dozen donuts like I had in the past, but eating smaller portions and stopping when full still doesn't feel natural to me.
But I will get there someday. So can you. Don't give up.