My Ideal Weight or Yours??? - 3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community

4Mom · 03-06-2013, 11:25 AM

I set a goal weight for myself when I started this journey and this is what I want to get to, but now 37lbs from goal people are telling me I should stop here and maintain this weight, well I'm not ok here at which point I'm told "Your addicted and it's not healthy". Addicted my *** I'm finally motivated and this is my journey not yours!!!

Sorry just had to vent a little.

simplelivingSD · 03-06-2013, 11:37 AM

This is just my opinion...I don't see the problem. You are 5'3 so at that weight you are probably not looking emaciated by any means... I know I am 5'2 and would not feel "done" at 157. You might be more muscular and carry it better? That may be why they are saying stop? I would have to agree with you tho. Don't stop till YOU are happy. YOU are the one who worked so hard to get where you are now. Others might think we are obsessed because it is such a strict plan. Own it!!!!

Roo2 · 03-06-2013, 12:01 PM

Sometimes people want to convey they think you are ok the way you are. I listen and tell them they gave me something to think about....and I proceed with what I think is the best plan of actions.
My plans for my weight loss is not like a Kite that can easily be blown around by the breeze. I am more like a Battleship with a sturdy Anchor!! And I am very well grounded and not easily led off course.
Carry On !!Full Speed Ahead!

Good Luck with your weight loss and don't let anyone or anything deter your progress!
Roo2

scorbett1103 · 03-06-2013, 12:09 PM

Agree with Roo - I also find that people have a hard time envisioning us smaller if they've never known us as anything but fat. I noticed this in particular because the friends and family who knew what I looked like 10-15 years ago were just excited for me and kept saying that I looked like my old self. It was the people at my job, who only ever knew me after I gained the weight, that started calling me "too thin" when I still had 20 pounds to lose.

You're so right, it's your journey! Do it up!

Lynnie63 · 03-06-2013, 12:35 PM

I feel the same way - people are surprised that I want to loose more - based on body fat and BMI I'm still overweight -I'm in a size 14 - I want to get to that 10.

My shoulder area and face are thin, and I have no butt (it's kind of saggy) and I think I look on the thin side for my size (I think it's because the IP protocol discourages inflammation - I think I read that somewhere).

mrskuby · 03-06-2013, 12:36 PM

My DH and I just had a conversation last night about how much more I plan to lose. He was surprised when I told him I was thinking about another 20 lbs. He has seen pics of me when I was much younger and very skinny and he was concerned about it (he's always been attracted to women with meat on their bones LOL) but I am not so much attached to the number as to the way I look and feel. I told him to let me know if he thought I was getting too skinny and I would evaluate where I was. But this is DH...I don't think I'd want anyone else commenting...

ImImportant · 03-06-2013, 12:57 PM

4Mom. We are at similar weight/height. I have had many people notice my weight loss and I get the same feedback. I'm getting too small. 20 pounds less will be too much. I just ignore it and keep moving forward with my plan. What can they do? Force feed me?

I am more compact so 155 on me looks thinner (size 8) on me but I will feel more comfortable at 135-140. I think that is perfect for my build. It is all about what makes you feel good.

4Mom · 03-06-2013, 12:57 PM

Thanks Ladies this is why I come here.

MSDEEDEE23 · 03-06-2013, 01:24 PM

I say do YOU!!! It's weird, my friends in Cali motivate me to go on, but my friends in GA keep telling me to stop, because I'm losing too much. I know where I want to be, and when I get there I will stop.

leannekarella · 03-06-2013, 02:22 PM

I agree with what everyone else has said. I told my mom what my goal weight is...I haven't seen the number since Jr. High School, and she said "that's too skinny"

HA! Not even close. I was overweight then too.

I told her that at that weight I'd finally be HEALTHY. I've been fat for so long, no one has any clue what I "Should" look like but me.

Suchawittygal · 03-06-2013, 04:52 PM

I completely agree with all the previous posters...Do YOU! You know what is best for you and what number will complete your journey, and lead you comfortably into maintenance.

I'm going through the same thing. My goal weight is set at 140 right now and as I approach it (as of this morning, only 8 lbs away), I still feel I need to lose more, perhaps go down to 130 or 125, everyone I know keeps telling me to stop now, that i look great, but I'm not comfortable stopping now. I'm going to take my own advice and Do ME. I'm going to change my goal weight.

Stick to your guns 4Mom.

maezy1 · 03-06-2013, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by 4Mom

I set a goal weight for myself when I started this journey and this is what I want to get to, but now 37lbs from goal people are telling me I should stop here and maintain this weight, well I'm not ok here at which point I'm told "Your addicted and it's not healthy". Addicted my *** I'm finally motivated and this is my journey not yours!!!

Sorry just had to vent a little.

I have gotten that response for the past 20 lbs but I am doing like everyone else and blowing it off. Once I am at a place where i am comfortable I will stop. I gotta say though every time I reach a milestone I drop my goal weight again.

ragdoll74 · 03-06-2013, 07:15 PM

If it's family or friends that tell me I am too skinny, I usually respond by grabbing my belly fat and saying I'm still trying to get rid of this. They usually don't argue anymore.

chubbiegurl · 03-06-2013, 07:45 PM

I am 5'2 and started this round at 153. Its no one else's business where u want to stop, only exception being if your goal is I'm the unhealthy range. I am 123 now and could honestly see myself ok at 115-117 so your goal sounds very reasonable. I had a friend who was 110 my height all through high school. And she looked great, after we both had kids I lost all my weught she hung on to 25 lbs. She would tell me I was too thin, ten years later we both gained 50 lbs. she managed to get to 145 I got to 126. Again she would say I was too thin. I think there was a bit of jealously involved since I was about 10 lbs heavier than her in high school.

EllyElle · 03-07-2013, 04:23 PM

4Mom, I completely agree with you. I currently weight 175 (my goal is 160) and everyday I have family and friends telling me I need to stop, that I'm too thin, and that I am addicted. It's very annoying because they are much smaller than me and I can't believe they have the nerve to make such comments. Why? Am I not allowed to be slim and trim also?