I can relate to the weight holding me back from participating in activities too.This has caused my life to change a lot, and not in a good way. My long time boyfriend left me at a time when I really needed him when my mom got very sick. Looking back, I see that some of the collapse was due to how i felt and looked at myself. I never had a weight problem until i started caring for my mom , and having little time to care for myself. So, the weight has cost me a lot, and I have lost a lot. I too hope that if I can improve the physical side of me by reducing my weight to a more satisfying image and one that i recognize when i look in the mirror, that then, maybe my emotional side will start to strengthen and I will become more at peace with my life.