I think there's an option to review photos before you're tagged in them...
Type in: "How do I turn on the option to review posts and photos I'm tagged in before they appear on my profile" into google, it should take you to the facebook information site about how tagging works.
My friends have a standard order of no tagging, they can let me know if there's one they want to tag me in and I'll look at it. My fiance is another story, if he has the camera - watch out. He'll chase me around taking photos of me whenever he can, and he figured out how to mute the camera on his phone, so I'm never safe!!