Some things your coach is suggesting don't sound right and don't appear to be part of the diet. Can't imagine my coach suggesting having 3 restricted items, though I could see her suggesting avoiding all restricted items. Also, 8oz of meat is usually for men, not for women so that doesn't sound right either.
Do you have another clinic that offers the program in your area? I guess one thing I'm thankful for is that mine is part of a doctors office so they have medical advice at hand if needed.
I think I'd be looking for some medial advice and/or another coach that knows the program better. How long has your coach been part of IP?