Do you think people treat you differently (often better) when you're losing or have lost weight because of the weight loss or are they responding to you behaving differently because you feel differently about yourself?
I am a strong believer that it's the latter.
I, too, believe that it's the latter. I've never considered myself shy or lacking self esteem, even at my heaviest. But about 3 weeks ago, a professional peer of mine told me that the change in my personality in the last 6 months or so has been startling ... that I seemed to carry myself with more pride and that I definitely seemed more self confident. I was AMAZED ... because I never thought I lacked those qualities before. It really blew my mind that he saw that change in me when I had no idea.
So I think a lot of the "why are we invisible when we're fat" really is about US and less about other people.