Originally Posted by gmailjunkie
I tend not to think of a lot of issues surrounding my weight loss as being exclusivley gay issues but here is one that definitly counts for me....One of my goals is to be hot enough that my family doesn't think that the only reason that I am gay is because I can't get a man. I typically don't care very much what they think and they are generally supportive (though they only refer to my girfriend of 3 years as my "friend") but I know that some of them think I'm settling because I'm not most men's definition of attractive.
Yep, I definitely know what you mean. No one has actually ever come out and said it to me, but I do feel like it's what people think- especially since I dated guys when I was smaller (except it was because I was young, not because I was average weight).
And I had to laugh because my parents call my girlfriend my "friend" also. They have progressed from calling her "your.... [pregnant pause]... friend" to "your friend," or usually her name. It's funny because they are pretty accepting overall and I have never had major problems with them about my orientation, so this seems kind of outlandish for them.
Three years should probably be a turning point for your family and your "legitimacy" as a couple. Neither of you are going anywhere, obviously, and there are plenty of straight people who get married far before their third anniversary!