Thanks for the hugs and the kind words of encouragement. They are greatly appreciated!
@ Luckymommy, I'll suggest those the next time she wants to go out, and see what kind of response I get. I don't know about the walking, she's mentioned many times how being out and about in 100 degree heat "isn't her thing". Coffee or tea though might work. I love people watching, so I'm good somewhere if I can sit on a patio and just look at the people go by.
@ Cyndi, I think I'm going to try the wine and seltzer and see if that helps me not feel like I'm "not participating".
@ Snaplet, I'm still trying to make other friends, so I'm hoping that I can find a friend or two who like to do other things besides hang out at bars. I do think too, that a part of me is getting older, and doesn't always want to do the lounge/bar/club scene.
@ Zeff, I like the "limits" idea as well. My willpower is tied to my emotional well being, and since I've been down in the dumps, I've had very little willpower. Since I'm getting back on track, I feel like my willpower should be stronger now. And I remember that someone posted recently about how willpower is like a muscle - the more you use it, the stronger it becomes.
Going to definitely have to work on that one!
@Mmckellen, I probably should be a little more "sociable" when I'm at the gym. I'm usually so focused on my workout (and finishing it) that I rarely chat or even say hi to others at the gym. And I agree, I will see if my new found friends are open to activities other than the bar/club scene.
Thanks again for all your input and the hugs, I really appreciate it.
And off topic - Great job Mavs! (Hope there aren't any Miami fans out there.
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