Zoe ~ don't be so hard on yourself (your whale description), but I know how you feel (if you recall my description of myself ~ Jabba the Hut). Why is it that it looks so much worse when we are sitting down? You are wonderful, and strong and amazing. I think of your story of what you did to your ex's clothes and just loved it. You actually did what a lot of us would like to do, but only think it. Hang in there.
One day at a time ~ never giving up!!
Nobody can force you to have a certain attitude. But life will go so much better if you will simply choose to be positive. When you wake up, choose to be happy. Choose to be grateful for the day. (Joel Osteen)