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Old 07-07-2010, 08:12 PM   #1  
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I’m ready now. I think I have said it before but now I feel I mean it. I teared a little as I wrote that- tearing or crying is my litmus test for veracity- so it appears I do mean it. Thank God.

I feel like it took a long time to get here, even though –at least comparatively- I know that probably isn’t true (I’m only 24) but I do know it took A LOT of emotional heavy lifting to get here.

“ Here” is the place where I am willing to require more of myself in a loving way. I have always had high expectations, but never really believed that I could meet them and HATED myself when I didn’t. Maybe the better way to put it is that now I require more FOR myself. I have realized that all of the things and people I looked to in the past to tell me how much I was worth were wrong. The ONLY real measure of success there can be is how well I treat myself and other people-in that order. This is my goal now- I have other things I want and other things I want to accomplish- but it all must be under the umbrella of treating myself as well as I can.

Treating myself well means no more Class IV obesity. This means no more”trying” half heartedly, then giving up (sometimes within hours or minutes) and hating myself for failing.

This means being willing to show up to therapy, to meetings, to the moments when I make the decision to put something in my mouth-really being present at those moments. TO be willing to plan, to work and re-work a system for getting healthy that works for me. This means being willing to train myself to override the negative script in my head with something else even though I know it will me HARD. This means never never never giving up in the face of injury, illness, business trips, fights with my mother, and cookie dough ice cream and ice cold cans of coke.

I really feel like I have the ability this time because I have done other hard thigns in the past. Before, when I have looked at what I have done in my life I alwaus focused on what I did wrong, on what I could have done better, I always discounted the success- I feel now when I looke at my like I am able to see things more objectively. My past- when approached from a certain angle shows me that I have done wonders (we all have I think) And I know that I am capable of performing the wonder of escaping obesity because rockinrobin is, so is mandalin, and Meg, and Lori Bell and Beverlyjoy and ubbergirl and on and on and on.

And if it turns out to be harder than anything I have ever done before so what? What about the human condition is easy? And what is the alternative?

I’m re-reading what I have writes so far- it scares me even as it excites me—but it also makes me wonder- What is different this time? I think therapy has a lot to do with it for me- I have abuse issues that I think it would be very hard to work though alone-but I also feel like I am doing it this time for the right reason. Before when I have tried to lose weight I’ve always fantasized about the approval I would get – the John Hughes transformation moment when I would walk into a room and knock everyone’s socks off, where my family is proud of me etc etc. Now I want to do it (need to do it ) because it’s what I deserve. I deserve better. It’s my responsibility to give myself better. Because I refuse to spend my life taking off where my abusers and neglecters left off. I have to be more to myself.

I also really believe reading the wise words and struggles of everyone here has helped me be ready. Thank you very much for that. It’s been an invaluable resource in the inspiration for this new undertaking and I know it will be an awesome resource for the execution.

I promise that not all my posts will be so long –but I do promise to post more.

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Old 07-07-2010, 08:26 PM   #2  
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I wish you the best of luck on your path.
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Old 07-07-2010, 08:38 PM   #3  
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Congrats on being ready - honestly being mentally ready is the most important part of this process. Once you've made up your mind you're going to be healthy, nothing can stop you!!
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Old 07-07-2010, 08:40 PM   #4  
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Old 07-07-2010, 09:05 PM   #5  
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You really sound like you are in the right mindset to be sucessful! You have taken the first step towards a new life! YOU CAN DO IT!!
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WOW! You are on your way girlfriend!!! I don't know you, but I have no doubt that you will succeed!
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Good luck on your journey! You CAN do it!
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I think you are gonna do great! Just have faith in yourself and keep that mindset that you have now and you will be well on your way. Good luck on your journey, and remember we are always here if you need us.
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Welcome, we are glad your here. And you CAN do it.
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Old 07-09-2010, 01:56 AM   #11  
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Thank-you for posting this, Chickie! Your words are truly inspirational to me. Good luck and I hope to see you around 3fc.


P.S. John Hughes was the man! I'm a diehard 80s fan.
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I have to tell you, your title made me smile.

But I also must tell you this, once you get going - dare I say - it's not all that hard. I mean it.

And trust me, I had lots of emotional reasons tied into my overeating. The hardest part was accepting and making peace with the fact that a change had to occur.

But when I got into it - I quickly learned that the change was a good thing. A REAL good thing. It was all a matter of working past the initial, temporary discomfort of letting old bad habits die and incorporating new healthy ones into my life. I wish I would have realized that so long ago.

I had nothing to fear, as adhering to a healthy lifestyle is a BEAUTIFUL, WONDERFUL, STUPENDOUS way to live. It's no prison sentence, but a ticket to freedom.

You SO have the ability to do this. I am CERTAIN of it. There's no doubt in my mind. Go for it. Go for it. GO FOR IT!!! I look forward to hearing of your growth and progress.
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Margie...your post touched me so. Yes, so much is being ready. It sounds like you've come to that point now. We all strive to have sanity with food. When we find willingness to go forward - it is a gift to ourself.
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Thank you everyone for your warm welcome! I really appreciate it.


Caela- Wow- how lucky am I to have been able to write inspiring words? Thank you for saying that!

Rockinrobin- Thanks for giving me a preview! But it's kind of interesting I also thought being out was going to be way harder than it is. But wow was I afraid of it and now it seems like one of the best things I have ever done even though it isn't easy.

Beverlyjoy- You are SO smart. "We all strive to have sanity with food. When we find willingness to go forward - it is a gift to ourself." is going in my food notebook- along with the rules for eating that you post on the accountability board. Thanks!
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