Man, what a jerk! I had the exact same thing happen to me this week. I told a friend's mother that I had lost 8 lbs. and she said, "Well, those are the easy ones." Easy ones? I worked my butt off for those! Then she had the audacity to say, "But I don't mean to discourage you." As if she could!
Someone here posted that when people say things like this we should assume that they mean well, but that they just are ignorant. So think of it this way:
This person is trying to give me advice about exercise. They are trying to help me in the only way they know how. Even though it is not the kind of help I want (or need), I'm going to accept that they want to help me in this journey.
Why should you do this? Resentment toward them is not going to help you. Besides, you are losing the weight for you, right? Not to get a daily round of applause from an admiring throng of friends and relatives.
With that said, I wouldn't talk to this person about weightloss anymore. If they ask how things are going, just say something about how much better you feel now that you are losing weight.
Why can't close friends or family members be proud of us when we make an effort to take care of ourselves?
At least yours didn't tell you "Well I think you're dehydrated because you drink iced tea" and make you feel like garbage for not being able to drink plain water. I know she didn't mean to... But she did. And she also said "Well I think your aches and pains are because you're dehydrated, not because you hurt yourself" which also made me feel bad and made me think (only in passing, mind you, but still) that she thought I was lying about how I got these aches and pains in the first place. (This is a close friend whom I consider a sister. My mother died 5 years ago.)
This person is trying to give me advice about exercise. They are trying to help me in the only way they know how. Even though it is not the kind of help I want (or need), I'm going to accept that they want to help me in this journey.
Why should you do this? Resentment toward them is not going to help you. Besides, you are losing the weight for you, right? Not to get a daily round of applause from an admiring throng of friends and relatives.
I see where you and the previous poster you mentioned are coming from with this, but I disagree. I do think most people are kind hearted but ignorant of exercise and healthy eating habits or what it takes to live like this all the time. I also think there are a disproportionate amount of people who will absolutely sabotage your diet and make you feel worthless, either out of spite, jealousy or insecurity in your changes. And resenting them may be a negative emotion, but it does help me. That anger spurs me on when I am tired and want to get off the treadmill or have that piece of cake. Their blatant disrespect for my struggle or own insecurities ignites a fire under me to prove them wrong. I don't care if that's wrong. It works for me, and I bet I'm not the only one. And I don't need a "daily round of applause" from friends, but I sure as **** don't need a naysayer either.
I lost 5 lbs...know what mine says?
Stupid stupid stupid... Some people just don't realize how much effort that can take!
