So, I was talking with my bf last night.. & he tells me that he has feelings for another girl and wants to go out with her. My heart sank. He told me he's known her before we met (we've been together for 2 1/2 years..long distance, like an hour away) and he's like her ever since. He didn't go out with her b/c she had a bf then and he moved on and met me.
So, he recently started talking to her again & he finds out that she likes him alot too. So, he just up & dumps me for her. He just throws away all our love, memories, and future together for a secret crush he's had on this girl just bc he finds out she likes him too. Wtf? If he really loved me and cared for me he would want to just be with me only. He would be loyal and caring. He would tell her that he's found someone & they can be friends. I would have had no problem with that. I guess he didn't love me after all, if he's willing to give everything we had away for another girl. So, whatever, i'm talking to him about it tonight...lets see how things go. *sob* *sigh*
Boys suck sometimes Hannah. Sorry to hear he's putting you through this.
For many people, the grass always looks greener on the other side and they forget to appreciate what they have. The excitement of a lost crush returning will often seem more exciting than the everyday (although perhaps great) person you're with.
Hang in, it will get better. I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but I would let him go. It's possible he will realize he's made a big mistake and his dream girl isn't all he's dreamt she would be.
Of course, it's also possible that should he decide he wants you back, you will be so far along your own personal journey of fabulousness, you won't be interested.
I know it's hard...but if he's willing to do this to you, what does it say about him - as a person and a boyfriend?
It hurts, but count yourself lucky you found this out about him NOW, before you made plans to relocate to be with him, etc. Use your frustration and anger and hurt and POUR it into your workouts. Become better for YOU, and move on from this guy.
sorry this happened, but yeah, let him go - he isn't the right one for you if this is happening. Give yourself some time to mourn and focus on yourself and your goals and I bet that in a few weeks, you don't even miss him at all!!
But don't stay in contact with him and try and convince him to stay with you - any man who has to be talked into being with you isn't a man you want to be with.
I'm with everyone else. Obviously you value yourself and are working on making yourself healthier so don't waste your time on someone that clearly doesn't value you. I know you are hurting right now but it will pass, not this week or maybe not this month but love yourself enough to let him go. He needs to pursue his fantasy but don't let his fantasy destroy you and how you see yourself.
Thanks everyone! I am hurting a lot.. but i've decided that i'm going to still be friends, keep in touch every once in awhile with him and wish him the best of luck with whatever he wants. I'm moving on.
Oh wow that sounds so tough. I am so sorry sweetie. He doesn't deserve you though. Just keep your head high, work on yourself and I am sure the right guy will come along. Hope you are doing okay. Hugs.
Omgoodness. I am sorry. I wouldn't talk to him about anything, anymore. Period. I wouldn't have anything to do with him ever again. Period. If a man ever told me that I could never, ever trust him with my feelings again. Period. I know it's hard. If this is what he's about, you are so much better off knowing now. Your real prince and life awaits after all!!!
((hugs)) I say move on sweetie... It sounds like he was just waiting for her to become single so he could make his move. You deserve someone who wants to be with you. You do NOT deserve to be treated like you are nothing more than a time passer for some idiot. There is a guy out there somewhere who will treat you the way you deserve.
Well...at least you just lost 200 ugly unnecessary pounds! Right? But seriously, any woman who steals a man away from another woman will have the same thing done to her one day. Gosh I hope that makes sense.
I think you solved your own questions when you wrote:
If he really loved me and cared for me he would want to just be with me only.
he doesn't, so don't agonize over the 'why nots' of this world; you'll find someone who DOES eventually and this will be a mere blip on the radar. In the meantime, let yourself grieve for a while but don't give him total control over your life by letting yourself get derailed! Big Hugz from all of us hun
Major Boy Trouble, HELP PLEASE!
I am so sorry sweetie. He doesn't deserve you though. Just keep your head high, work on yourself and I am sure the right guy will come along. Hope you are doing okay. Hugs.
