We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.
We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We often use a "Topic of the Day" for discussion.
Motivational Monday
Tuesday Tips
Wednesday Wish List .. and What you are doing to obtain it.
Thankful Thursday
FUN Friday ... don't wait until you lose your weight.
Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Share your Success Sunday
These are not required topics ...just ideas to share. We often find them very helpful. We also share heartaches and fears ... joys and celebrations.
We have several extra threads going on simutaneously such as Monthly Challenges, Weekly Weigh-ins, Recipes, Bios, and more. Please feel free to check them all out.
We have found this thread to be more than just a support group...
we have found it to become a home. We invite you to join us.
WELCOME!
I know you'll all agree that we are really thankful for the free services here at 3FC. The sisters offer all of this support and information with no charges to us. There are a couple of ways though that we can help out.
If you are thinking about buying anything at Amazon, why not help out 3FC at the same time? You can do this by clicking on the button for the Amazon "store" in the upper right hand corner of the screen on the PURPLE tool bar. A portion of your purchase price will be given to 3FC by Amazon. It doesn't increase your price at all, but it does help out 3FC. You can use any of the Amazon.com links that you see on the site in order to help contribute to the site.
Also, BTW, in case you didn't know it, you can view the message boards "ad free" for a minimal charge. I think it's like $15 for 6 months. A very small investment to be rid of the annoying ads and make your pages load quicker.
There have been some concerns expressed by the powers that be about copyright infringement. So please, if you are directly quoting someone else or printing an article in whole or in part, please give credit where credit is due!!!!
Okee .. hope I did this right Can the powers that be close the other one please lol .. Huggies
Oh .. just adding something to this post instead of making another lol .. I went to look up my BMI .. now while not wonderful .. I know Im obese so that aint a news flash lol .. but when I started I was 47.7 ... 3 months down Im now 42.7! A whole 5 points!! Happy is a Katt with a lowered BMI!! Hummm .. maybe I should have waited to check that NSV for when my scales stopped movin lol .. oh well ... have I mentioned how much I am liking this Friday the 13th!? Definitely a good start to my weekend ..
Okee .. gettin a headache .. need a couple more hours sleep. Huggies!
Okee ... one more addition lol .. I just had a look at the weight I have lost in total in Kilograms ... and Im stunned .. over 15kg!! Then I got to thinkin about using those 1kg weights for part of my dvd exercise last night and how my arms didnt want to have them as part of it cos they were too heavy .. hot darn if a few months ago I wasnt carryin those kilo weights PLUS another 13 on this body!! What on earth was I thinkin??
Okee .. thats it ... honest .. now shutting the lid of my laptop and havin a catnap. Huggies (AGAIN!!)
Hehehe nice to see someone is in such a good mood Katt
I didnt realize if you count the numbers of tommorows date (frid.13th) is also 13...wow, my numerogical number, I dont know how its called, but its like adding name and time of birth together, is also 13!!! Its gonna be a magical date..I'll either loose a lot of weight or gain it
My boyfriend asked me today what I want for my birthday, which is two months ahead, I said thats not two months ahead its 15kg ahead lol, Im not counting time in days anymore Im counting it in kilograms
Anyway, Im off to bed..you all have a great night and friday 13th
Amy: So, so sorry about the loss of your beloved Wilhelm. Please don't feel badly. You were doing the very best thing for him to have a home that you trust and know he would be loved and treated with love and respect. You were'nt just taking him to the pound like most people would do. I wish I could give you a real hug. Pets are so much a member of our family, best friends when you are a pet lover. Hugs to you sweetie and hang in there.
Sandy: I hear you and feel your pain on the video thing. I often will se photos of myself and just want to scream at how I look. Hang in there and try to enjoy yourself on this journey. You are doing so well, try not to get down about how things are right now. Look forward to the way they will soon be! I really have not experienced this first hand but I have seen a very good friend of mine here on this site go from not even wanting to exercise at all to being the queen of the Gazelle! Of coarse I'm talking about Ammi. AS soon as her attitude changed, she started to drop the weight so well. She is really an inspiration to me and I know that the attitude is half the battle. So, again, hang in there and we can do this together! Hugs.
Jessica: Welcome. You couldn't be in a better place for people who know exactly what you are going through. They are a wonderful group of ladies. I sure am looking forward to getting to know you better.
Misti: So sorry that you seem to be in a weight loss rut right now. I do know how you feel when you try everything the best of your ability. I will be praying for you to hang in there and be patient with yourself! Maybe you aren't eating enough? I have no words of wisdome other than, just keep on trying.
Everyone else, hugs and blessings your way. Hope you are all having op days with lots of exercise and water!
Annie
Ok, am I the only one that just noticed that this smilie turns from a smiley face to a bat?? Go Amy...real quick on the uptake there...
I am...ok. I feel like I've been hit by a Mack truck and someone forgot to tell me until today. My muscles ache, I have a headache, and I'm just mentally and physically exausted.
For those of you who are new or dont remember me mentioning this before, I struggle with a lot of loneliness and isolation. I live alone, I am in a long distance relationship and I dont have many friends. The only reason I mention all this is because I'm sure some people must think it kind of foolish to be so upset over a cat. But that cat was my source of comfort and companionship when no one else was there, which was much of the time. He was so sweet and loving. He was very talkative, especially when I got home from work. He would meow and meow at me... Now its just quiet.
I am finding so many things that I would do because/for him that I dont do now. Like making sure the toilet seat is down so he wouldnt drink out of it or keeping my bedroom door closed so he couldnt pee on my bed just in case he developed another bladder infection. These things sound really dumb, but I got home last night and went into my room to change my clothes and closed the door. Then I realized it didnt matter anymore. I just didnt matter.
I cleaned up his water fountain and am going to try to sell it at the yard sale. I bought on eBay for $30 only like a month ago as a last-ditch effort to stop all the bladder infections he was having (it circulates and filters the water, encouraging them to drink more, etc). I just replaced the filter on it the day before yesterday. I am also going to put his little placemat in the "free" bin (its scratched up so not worth selling but still pretty cute) and the leftover litter I guess I will give to my sister. I still have about 1/2 bag of prescription food left over so I am going to give that to my bro and sis in law because they buy that for thier cats. I am keeping his food dish as a memento. Its white ceramic and says "Paris-L.A.-New York." etc around the rim. He was so fancy.
Anyway, I got a lot of stuff done for the yard sale last night. I cleaned out all the CDs, movies, and books I dont use anymore and am going to sell those, too. I found a lot of stuff I was "keeping just to keep" and I'm getting rid of all of that. I hope it goes well. I may place an ad in the newspaper to get people there, who knows. At least its keeping me busy.
I called the place I applied for the apt at and they said the only things they need are to verify my current employment and my status in Mary Kay. Apparently they heard on my voice mail that I am a MK consultant. I am getting out of it so it doesnt matter now and I tried to tell them that, but they still wanted to talk to someone to verify I am still an active consultant. Not sure who they are going to contact since we are all independent and I dont have a "boss" per se, but I gave them my unit leader's email and my recruiter's ph # so hopefully that will be ok. The apts are considered "affordable housing," i.e. you have to make under a certain salary to live there, so I hope me being a MK consultant wont put me over the limit or anything. I have barely made any profit off my MK since I started. I have been selling most things at cost so I can at least recoup my investment. I'm just worried about what my unit leader will tell them and if it will hurt me getting the apt. I gave my notice at work today and have already given notice at my apt--what am I supposed to do if I have no where to move to????
Anyway, I'm sure you all are tired of my complaining. I hope you all forgive me for not being able to see the sunny side of life these last 2 days.
My sister-in-law sent me this poem. I highlighted some parts that are especially touching to me:
Yours Was the Cat of Cats
You won't be able to read this
Even though it contains a kiss
For your cheek, my dears
To help dry some of your tears,
But your cat was truly one Masterful son of a gun
A cat among cats of power
and of stature by the hour
He wasn't one to back off
Or never one to scoff
He was a fur ball of delight And he gave life a good fight,
We all know how you grieve
And that your heart will leave,
And travel to those clouds
To see him in those crowds
Of adoring felines many,
In fact he will see plenty
Of his true old friends up there
So stop and say a prayer,
For all the cats on high
That play ball in the sky,
Whene'er you chance to see
Clouds which appear to be
Chasing each other's tails
Not making any wails,
For those are kitties too
Playing sky tag in the blue.
Cry it is really okay, Your kitty waits the day
When you will come and play, In your heart he'll ever stay.
Amy - please accecept my sincerest condolences. my cat was hit by a car about 6 months ago and i had to put her down. it was the hardest thing i have ever had to do. i was completely inconsolable for days. do not feel guilty about what happened, OR your grieving process. you are entitled to cry and pound on things and eat whatever you want. we are here for you *hugs*
Hi guys
Just checking in. Housecleaner didnt show up tonight (sick) so I had to use my valuable scrapbook time to finish. Now I have to finish getting ready for the pool. I am going to be up all night trying to finish this layout. I changed my mind about the topic though. It has to be about me and I was going to use pics of hubby, nature, me etc but I think I am doing it all about my weightloss. It will be more meaningful and maybe will take more time on it. I will try to take a pic of it and post it when my big weekend is all over.
kayley~ Nice to see you back! can I ask what Andrews complications were? don;t freak me out though... steve had his vas last week *L*
Amy~ Sweetie.... it will get easier. All I have to do is think of what you are going through and I start to cry. My heart really does ache for you!
gotta run. Its time to go and change for water running. Have a great night!!
Brenda
Annie, thanks for the prayers! Wow that is the most helpful thing ever!! I have always felt I was eating enough but today I did finally decide to crank up the calories just for a few days and give it a shot. LOL it is HARD! I am having my biggest craving lately... chicken wings... for dinner!
Hope everyone has a happy Friday tomorrow!!!! Hugs to all.
so last night was our halloween excursion, and i have to say. it pretty much sucked. i mean i had a good time, but its obvious, that things were messed up, even my friends that i hadnt seen in FOREVER noticed things were wrong. which pretty much sucked. blah. it didnt help at all that i had been up since 6:30 am to be at work. then sat in 2 hours of traffic to not even get to do all my work, then to sit in an hour and a half more traffic. i was DONE with traffic. so i was in a bad mood anyway. it still sucks.
Well I had to share this... I guess this is an NSV... I got my chicken wings from my favorite place... and I could hardly gag them down! They tasted soooooo fat and greasy after all the healthy food I'm used to! I don't think I can eat the rest of them. LOL well I suppose this is good news!
Hi Ladies - Just dropping in for a quick post. My in-laws invited John and I out to Molly's Reach for dinner (on them...kinda a peace offering I think) and I looked at the menu and it was all something too high in calories for me, or just something I didn't wanna eat...so at the end of the night I ended up having a garden salad (green and red leaf lettuce, couple cucumbers, few tomatoes, and grated carrot) with grilled chicken on top (about 3oz) with 1 tbsp of ranch dressing - woo hoo!! It filled me for now and it only works out to be around 200 calories, lol. I will snack later though, but I will be smart about it. John and I had a major lounge day...it's his 2 days off finally (Thurs/Fri) so we haven't even exercised yet!! And it's coming up on 9pm! Oh well...I will walk later for sure, even if it's short...and I might try a few small upper body strength exercises with my weights. Hope everyone is doing well.
Stay OP chickies!
I was feeling really blue yesterday (just more crap with hubby) and didn't get ANY exercise in at all. I hardly slept last night. But this morning I decided that self-pity wasn't a good enough excuse, and I was GOING to workout no matter what. I dragged myself to Curves (the scale there is up two pounds, too) and somehow managed to really focus on the work and put lots of concentrated effort into it.
Then someone told me about a nearby dog park since I had the boys with me, so I took them and did some walking while they played. At first we had the place to ourselves, and then out of the blue a friend of mine showed up with her two standard poodles and an afghan hound that I'd never met. We usually meet at the barn and do horsey stuff, so it was fun to meet there. I like standards poodles, but the afghan was just so neat!!
Tonight another conversation with Bill plunged me into the dumps again and I just wanted to weep and give up - spin a cocoon, molt, anything that would transform me and make it all go away. But I had resolved to put in some time on the treadmill. I took the computer with me for music, but Launchcast played such garbage that it just made me mad, so I did some cussing and venting in private and got it out of my system. Then I finally got some good Joss Stone going and put in 35 sweating, anger-purging minutes. I feel absolutely GREAT right now! My mood has lifted, my body feels good, and I'm looking forward to a good night's sleep! Maybe I can still kick those 2 returning pounds off by the weekend weigh-in, I hope i hope I hope! I had wanted to be DOWN a few more, so gaining them when I've been so religious and had been dropping weight so well, was really a shock. You know the kind - a horrible, ugly shock. Boo! hiss!
Violet, your sis-in-law's poem brought tears to my eyes, though I hope it helped you realise you are not alone & that people care. Just think soon you wil be close to your guy (& family?), a fresh start & hopefuly a new, happier chapter of your life. I too isolate myself, partly because of Gareth's Autism; we were unable to get out, even shopping, as a family because he screamed and got hysterical; so any socialising was virtualy impossible. Sadly now it has become a habit, though I invited another mum round to have a cup of coffee with me, even though the house was a mess!!! We have to force ourselves to be friendly & then we get friends, hopefuly, lol. I hope everything gets better soon and you get a memorial for your Wilhelm, a celebration of him & his life.xxxxx
Valerie, I hope things get better for you too, VERY SOON. I really hope you do something to help whatever it is which is causing you unhappiness; I have an inkling it was finances (from an old post);Is he/it worth it? I wish I was closer so we could chat & I could offer you support in whatever decision you take. xxxx
Misti, I hope those fatty chicken wings scared the FFM into a visit, I don't know how you keep OP & exercising when the scales aren't moving in the RIGHT DIRECTION!! xxxxx
Ammi, loved your pics on the rider, they really show your size-SMALLER- lol and you look so happy, your smile is so infectious & sunny. xxxx
Well after Wednesday - a truly awful day; so depressed I couldn't even cry; I'm feeling better, BUT the scales are UP 3lbs!!! So I moved weigh in to today so I can start AGAIN TOMORROW, & it gives me til next Saturday to lose 3lbs AND SOME MORE!!! I see the Dr. on Monday so I really hope he can give me something which WORKS!!!
Sorry to be a downer , I have no probs reading other's struggles & want to help, but I don't want to add to anyone's worries by adding mine (does this sound right, it sounds garbled, but I hope you get the sentiments ).xxxxx
xxsharon
Okee .. I have been seeing how many of us are having a terrible time lately .. personally/professionally/weight wise .. soooo I was sent this just this morning .. Im sorry I dont know who the original writer of this was, but I hope that some on here may be able to read this and let it help you feel better ... even for a moment I hope you can find a Natural High to help you through too
Huggies
Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one... IT DOES MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD, especially the thought at the end.
1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No lines at the supermarket
5. A special glance.
6. Getting mail
7. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
8. Hearing your favourite song on the radio.
9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Chocolate milkshake.. (or vanilla or strawberry!)
12. A bubble bath.
13. Giggling.
14. A good conversation.
15. The beach
16. Finding a 20 dollar bill in your coat from last winter.
17. Laughing at yourself.
19. Midnight phone calls that last for hours.
20. Running through sprinklers.
21. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
22. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
23. Laughing at an inside joke.
24. Friends.
25. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
26. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.
27. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner).
28. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
29. Playing with a new puppy.
30. Having someone play with your hair.
31. Sweet dreams.
32. Hot chocolate.
33. Road trips with friends.
34. Swinging on swings.
35. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
36. Making chocolate chip cookies.
37. Having your friends send you homemade cookies.
38. Holding hands with someone you care about.
39. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.
40. Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you.
41. Watching the sunrise.
42. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
43. Knowing that somebody misses you.
44. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.
45. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think.
Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly...
Okee .. Im about to have my shower and go to bed after dancing with Richard ..
My hunny came home tonight in a very good mood and the darling surprised me with my own ipod nano .. bright pink!! .. He said that I can use it when I get up to going out on my own for walks!! Yayy .. now there is encouragement for me to go outside and have a good walk .. might give that a try next week
We then went into town (Ash has a friend staying over and they both went to Youth Group in town) and went to Subway for dinner (I had only had under 500 cal all day .. Im just not at all hungry!!??) .. so I had a foot long Roast Beef with LOTS of salad and just a little sauce and another bottle of water (definitely drinking my quota each day now lol) ... and then we went and got the shopping .. I have treated myself to some chicken nuggets with corn in for next weeks dinner one night ... I can have 6 or 8 depending on what else I have eaten lol .. and we got some lovely dory fillets for dinner tomorrow night with some steamed veges (and mushrooms for my hunny cos Im allergic to them lol) ... as well as some steak for our dogs (gawd they are spoilt!). We also got Scoots FAVE ice cream lol .. when we got home and unpacked everything ... I had a play with my nano, Scoot cooked up the steak for the dogs .. then we watched a little tv before the girls got home . when they had gone out to the sleepout for the night Scoot asked for the ice cream .. I will admit I was sorta tempted to have his one lol .. but instead I measured out 100g of my low fat one (160 cal) and really enjoyed that ... I still didnt get to 1500 cal today .. but Im really happy with how much I am eating ... summer is always the easiest time for me to be able to lose weight cos I cant eat anything heavy or too often .. so I have a lot of veges cos I can nibble on them raw lol. Does pose a problem next winter cos Im hoping to be within 20 pounds of my main goal weight of 220 pounds .. but I might go lower than that .. Im not aiming to be the "correct weight for my height" as all those lists say I should be .. I was once within 5kg of my ideal weight and I was like a walking coathanger (think I have said that before havent i?) .. so Im aiming initially for 100kg (220 pounds) and will see how I feel from there lol .
Anyway .. today has been a brilliant Friday the 13th .. wish they could all be this good Better get to bed .. shower first ... we have to go to the PO tomorrow to post a bunch of packages and get my daughter some sandals for school (hers were apparently lost in the move grrr).
I wish.....
Light for those in darkness
Warmth for those that are cold
Water for those that are thirsty
Love for those that need to be held
Passion for those that have lost their dreams
Vision for those that have lost their way
Peace for those that are troubled
and Happiness for those that have had sadness too often.
300+ & Ready To Try Again #1032
Can the powers that be close the other one please lol .. Huggies 
turns from a smiley face to a bat?? Go Amy...real quick on the uptake there... 
We have to force ourselves to be friendly & then we get friends, hopefuly, lol. I hope everything gets better soon and you get a memorial for your Wilhelm, a celebration of him & his life.xxxxx
I don't know how you keep OP & exercising when the scales aren't moving in the RIGHT DIRECTION!!
xxxxx
xxxx
).xxxxx