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__________________ ~ This Girl
"The ultimate cure for obesity is exercise!" -Covert Bailey, Fit or Fat?
Today i baught a Fitness Bike i plan to use it 30min twice a day hopefully i keep up with that
Hello Mokster! Welcome.
Have you been doing any sort of exercise in the past few months? If not, you may not be able to exercise for 30-minutes straight. I am saying this because one the worst things I've done to myself is set myself up with an expectation so high that I cannot meet it. Then i beat myself up about it and use it as proof positive that I cannot lose weight because i have no commitment or whatever BS is going through my head at the moment.
So, I congratulate you on buying the bike. Good for you! And, now i suggest you get on it and see how far you can go at one time. If that is only 5 minutes, then so be it. So, for the first week commit to doing what you can realistically do (yes, even 5 minutes is better than nothing) - 5 min in the morning and 5 minutes in the evening is good enough if that is all you can do right now. Stick with that commitment for a week and then try to see if you can make it to 8 minutes or 10 minutes. Increase gradually, listening to your body and not the excuses in your head.
When I started doing my bike at home I could only do 15 minutes. I am not kidding you - today I did a 70-minute session (which felt too easy) and on most Saturdays (those when I'm not spinning my life out of control ROLF) I do a 90 minute session. I've had to build to that. And if can do it being a whole decade older than you and having arthritis in my knees, then so can you.
Best of luck. And, keep us posted. This group is great! And we are just as invested in you succeeding as we are in our own triumphs. So, let us support you by coming back every day and letting us know how you're doing. :-)
Oh yeah, and also, I find it really helpful to post my workout results in the exercise thread. Join us there too!
__________________ ~ This Girl
"The ultimate cure for obesity is exercise!" -Covert Bailey, Fit or Fat?
Last edited by ThisGirlsLosing : 04-17-2006 at 03:42 PM.
Hey thank you for that .. yea i remember going to the gym and feeling that way when i couldent do all i had planned.. its cool to see people that can relate to what im going through. Ive never had that....
Hey everyone. I know I've been scarce lately, but I did good today. I called up the counseling place, and I have an appointment for Thursday morning at 8:30am. I'm very nervous, as I've never been before, and WHERE AM I GOING TO START?? Although, they did do an intake over the phone with me today, so I guess that'll help the guy.
I also have an appointment on Thursday afternoon at the courthouse to take a typing test, and then I'm going to see about getting a job as a clerk there. So yeah, this week is going to be interesting.
Hope you are all doing well...I'm...okay, I suppose.
Had RNY Gastric Bypass on 1/6/2015
I havent been around much lately, its been kind of a weird week.
Friday I walked into work and, before I could even get to my desk, the biggest busy-body in the call center whom I cannot stand comes up and tells me "Michelle passed away last night". Michelle is a co-worker of mine that I was not particularly close to, but I still knew her and had talked to her frequently. She had (some type of female) cancer last year and was off for like 3 mos, but she beat it and came back. Then the cancer came back. She had been off work this time for like 4 mos or so, but I had no idea it was this grave. I expected her to beat it like she did before, I guess.
Her family issued a statement saying nothing more medically could be done for her and she wanted to come home. She came home Thursday afternoon and died Thursday night. She was 30 years old. How can you prepare yourself for death at 30 years old? I dont understand it. How can you say "I want to go home. I want to be comfortable because I know I am going to die. Give me something for the pain and let me go home" when you are 30 years old??? I just dont understand why stuff like this has to happen. It hurts my heart. I sat at my desk crying on Friday and the rest of the day really sucked. Poor Nat couldnt figure out what was so wrong--he knew she had died but he didnt know it was making me that upset. Its not like Michelle was a close friend, or even anything more to me than a co-worker, but just that stuff like this happens--it just upsets me. My sister says "God called her home" but that is little consolation. I guess it scares me. My sister is 30. Nat is 32. Heck, I'm 26! What stops this from happening to one of us? I think about it probably more than I should, even before this. What would I do if my sister died? What would I do if my mom died? I didnt really even like my dad and I still feel a hole in my heart for him because I miss the things about him that were good, and the times I did like him. I love my sister and my mom and brother, etc--what would I do without them? I know they have to die someday, and I guess that is what scares me. Death doesnt excuse any of us.
What a bummer post, huh? I've been a little depressed in general lately, and I think today I figured out why. I was reading MariaLucia's post about her relationship ending, and it occured to me--I am excited to move to KC, but I think my depression is because I am "mourning" the end of my life in Lincoln and my life so close to my family. Lincoln has been my home for the majority of my childhood and for all of my adult life. And I've never lived more than 90 miles from my parents, siblings, and grandparents. But I think this mourning is ok and probably even healthy. If I didnt care and didnt take time to understand the ramifications of moving 200 mi away, I think I'd be in a sorry state once I got to KC.
I told my sister I was going to move and she is being less than supportive. She asked me what Nat is "promising" me to make me want to move down there. I guess she thinks the only good reason for me to consider moving is if he has promised to marry me. But this isnt the 1950s, sweetheart, and I dont need any man to "promise" me anything. And why would it be better for me to move down there for Nat's reasons and not my own? I feel she holds him to really unfair standards. Nat makes more money, drives a nicer car, and has more education than her boyfriend does. But she still loves her boyfriend and he is still a good man with a decent job. Her boyfriend is still someone I would date, and I am glad she is with him. I know she's just worried about me and wants the best for me, but she does this every time I want to do something different. Its like "Oh, silly Amy--you cant really be serious". She says I'd be leaving "everything I've ever known". And that is true. But why is that always a bad thing? If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got. And believe me, brother--that aint a lot. So I am not very pleased w/my only sister right now. She is being a real b*tch, to be frank.
I told my mom and she is being very supportive, so that is really nice. I value my mother's advice above all others, for the most part. My mom has really been thru a lot in her life. We never had anything, but my mother never let us look like we didnt have anything. She has a lot of pride and always has, even when there wasnt much to take pride in. She gives me strength and courage. She has raised me to be the strong person I am, and for that I am grateful.
I have bronchitis and a sinus infection. I went to the doc and she gave me some good stuff to knock it out. I was able to see my regular doc so she gave me samples for one of the medications, and she wrote me a note excusing me from work today and tomorrow! When you hate your job like I hate mine, any time off work, even sick time, is good.
I havent been OP at all for like the last week. I tried last week but would mess it all up come dinner time. I guess I was OP for the majority of the day, though, and I did manage to excercise 3xs last week even though I was getting sick. I'll get back on track, though. I figure at least I am still excercising because the excercising is what I always quit first when I was dieting before.
On Saturday I applied for about a dozen jobs in KC. I got a response on 2 of them today, asking me when I was planning to relocate. I told them I would just need to give 2 weeks notice and then I could be ready to work if need be. I told Nat if a good job comes up, something that I really want to do, pays well, and they want me to start in 2 weeks, I'll find a way. Nat has a spare bedroom I could stay in for a while and I have some vacation built up so I could work 1 week and take the last week as vacation and get moved during that week if I had to. Then after I get my last paycheck and my 401k cash-out I could get my own place. I will not pass up a good job beacuse I'm not ready to move--I will find a way.
I'm sorry this post was once again all about me. I havent been on the board much and have gotten behind, and I really needed to get a lot of this off my chest. I did read all your posts, though, and I am thankful for each and every one of you. I appreciate the support and unconditional love and the liberty to express myself I feel here. Congrats to the losers, condolences to the gainers. And wyllenn and Nancy--I LOVE the new avatar pics!! *whistles, cat calls*!
Amy, I can totally understand how that would upset you. I remember when I was in college I got a call one night when my dad was out (I was home for the summer) that one of my dad's best friends had died of a heart attack. They had had breakfast together that morning. My dad was devastated and I was so thrown. If his friend could die of a heart attack...so could my dad. Death affects us all in different ways. I am sorry that this has you so upset.
MariaLucia...wow...that's a major decision. But if you can empower yourself to make that sort of pro-active choice for yourself that you know is better for you in the long run..then you can make other pro-active choices as well...like not running for the fridge to soothe your heart...although a little chocolate never hurt anyone...much. *HUGGGGS* to you and wishing you strength!!!
Kayley: read the comment I left you on MySpace.
So I have now been to the gym three times...my trial workout, and then Saturday and today. Yesterday was DISNEY all day...and wow did we walk!!! I wish I had brought my pedometer to see how much ground we covered. Next time for sure. I peed all day long...but when you drink roughly 120 oz. of water it's to be expected. My food was soooooo good too. We went to Denny's for breakfast and had veggie egg beater's omelettes, for lunch we had roasted chicken and veggie refried beans, we brought our own snacks (carrots, light string cheese, a Luna Bar), and for dinner I had soft tacos in steamed corn tortillas and a salad. All in all a very good day. The weather was great and we got the cutest bride and groom Mickey & Minnie ears. Mine are white sequins and are on a headband with a veil...I'll try to post pictures.
Jason totally threw me for a loop though during lunch. Out of nowhere he says "So, how many kids do you want to have?" HUH? I mean we've talked about kids..but that was random. I guess it's being around so many families all day..but whoah!
I more or less gave up on keeping Passover. It's not that I eat so much bread products but it's just getting to be a pain in my tail. I sort of feel bad...but just sort of.
My mother comes tomorrow. I have not seen her since November 1997 and our relationship has varied between on the mend and strained. I am pretty anxious about it and can only hope for the best. She wants to buy away the last umpteen years of bad blood between us. Who am I to say no?
Happy Monday...sorry I didn't have more personal replies.
p.s. I LOVE the elliptical machine..what have I done without it all these years?
"do what you love...love what you do" 312/257.4/140
I have been lurking here for about a month or so. This has been the most supportive group I've seen. I would love to join you all if you wouldn't mind. I have been trying to go it alone and that is not working well.
Mokster~ good to see you are excited about excercising, perhaps you are Serious about your new life change,is why you are excited,, Keep me posted on how everything goes.. Take Care, what plan have you decided to go with?
I LOST 2 MORE POUNDS...
__________________ Crock 02/06/06 back again 12/07
Zelma – I loved your post about your lifestyle! That is where I want to be someday! I think I am doing some things similarly to you, but other things differently. But the point is I want MY lifestyle to become second nature. I’m not really there yet (esp with the exercise) but I can envision a day when that’s the case for me too.
And yikes! A nearly 6 mile walk! I would HOPE that was your exercise for the day!
Maria Lucia -- again. It sounds like you are making the right decision for you, but that certainly does not make it easier. When you mentioned you didn’t love yourself enough before to leave I knew exactly what you meant. I was in a similar situation a number of years ago. I made the right decision to leave my relationship that was SO not right for me and am in a much better place now than I ever imagined I would be.
As for the nutridiary question, they are color coded: orange is fat, blue is carbs and green is protein. The order is always the same: fat, carb, protein. You can see this more clearly if you click on “full analysis” and you see the pretty pie graph with your percentages of each. You also see this on the “Start” page when it shows you the calorie distribution graph.
Mokster – congrats on the bike! I’d love to invite you (and anyone else who wants to!!) to join our monthly exercise thread. We use it as a way to keep ourselves accountable for exercise. We track the number of minutes we exercise AND keep track of the minutes the group has done. So far this month we are nearing 100 hours (6000 minutes) of exercise.
Seriously, join us – it’s stickied at the top of the 300+ forum.
I have some news to report – hubby got laid off from his job today.
It is not really a surprise in some ways, but then, of course it’s a surprise. We’re still figuring out what’s up with everything, but at least he has a bit of severance pay. We’ve been pretty conservative fiscally, and with everything can go awhile without fear of losing the house, but it’s still scary and stressful.
And I refuse to use this as an excuse to change my lifestyle (getting back to Zelma’s point). We had our planned healthy dinner and took the dogs for a nice walk.
My 5 C's of healthy living: Commitment to conscious control, with the understanding that choices have consequences
I am so frustrated. In December I fell down the stairs and hurt my ankle. I had ahard time walking but was on my feet all the time as that was a really busy time at work. But I stoped working out and put back on some weight I lost.
I started walking on the trails around the city. i really like to be out side and walk. Last week I walked to work and it was farther than i thought and my foot hurt so I didi not walk a few days last week. Today i walked for about an hour and 15 minutes and it felt good while I did it. But now my foot/ankle hurts. I am worried, I feel like i should not walk tommorow but i really want to, on the other hand i know I could just walk less. Maybe I should go to the doctor and have them look at it. i hate going to the doctor. Just frustrating. I guess i can find a differnt exersize that is not putting all of this wieght on my foot/ankle. any suggestions on free out door exersizes that are easy on the ankles?