Well.. I started and finished reading Chapter 3. It does not take a long time I agree.
But I do have stuff to share within it.
My answers are in regular black lettering.
The quotes are in bold
and different colors.
First... Lucky.. I agree about "perfectionism". Especially the part about "being worthy of".
I have spent my whole life being a perfectionist .. unsuccessfully. LOL
I always thought that a perfectionist was someone who had to do everything Perfectly.
A perfectionist (to me) is someone who "wants" it done perfectly but since that is unrealistic they are always defeated or wanting or unworthy.
The "unworthy" really hits home for me. I have always worked for worthiness.
While growing up I always heard... "what did you do to deserve this?"
I never felt deserving... thus never felt worthy.
To this day... I HATE recieving gifts because I feel unworthy of them.
Even though I am a GOOD mother... I am not a perfect mother .. thus undeserving.
I worked very hard to learn that "Good is good enough".
I use that line all the time now. I even believe it. LOL
But.. "worthiness" is still something I have to work at accepting.
Anyway... on with my interpetation of Chapter 3.
"harder to treat than cancer...
people change only when ready , you need to find the state of your readiness....
I had a score of 16 on my profile of readiness. I had NO no's.... 2 undecided and 2 between yes and undecided.
The iffys were ....
# 2... Ready to throw away clothes that are too big and no longer fit me.
FEAR steps in here. When you fail, the last thing you want to do is go buy new FAT clothes. I know my mind set has to be... "I WILL NOT FAIL !!!"
Add that to the fact I have clothes I have owned for 25 years
and it is HARD to do this. BUT .. I am willing to give it a try. I will go through my clothes.
# 9 ...willing to change my job...
This is ironic since I don't even have a job. LOL I guess this is the "perfectionist" in me.
If I had a job would I be willing to change ? I guess I am thinking of others here too.
People have to earn a living... and jobs are hard to find.... surely there is another option.
BUT..If it came down to staying FAT or changing my job... WOULD I ???
I am on the fence on this one.
# 10 willing to throw away ALL problem food
This is taking the bottle away from the alcoholic. This is also taking the food away from my family... my grandkids. My problem food may not be theirs.... like bread and butter... or potatoes.
Or I may not like their favorite goodies.. but still cannot resist temptation .. even if I don't really like them.
Do I make them sacrifice because I can't control it??
I think I have changed my answer on this one. I am NOT asking them to not eat it... I am just not going to have it in my home. There are plenty of substitutions available for them. They can bring it when they come if they want it here.. and then take it home with them. I am worthy of asking my husband to sacrifice on occasion for my HEALTH.
Now for the scoring...
0-3 Comfort Zone...
By taking a seat in the comfort zone, you remove yourself from the fear of reaching your goals and the fear of possibly failing.
You have the primary responsibilty for initiating change in your life.
If your weight problem is to change... then YOU have to CHANGE
What can I do to get healthy control ..?
4-10 Fence sitting
(This describes me the most even though my score did not match.
You are wavering between the pros and cons of change: "I'd like to be slim BUT I don't want to give up my favorite foods" ... "I know I should exercise, BUT I don't think I can make the effort"
You are afraid of what you might have to give up in order to change...
Mental tug of war....
You can't go anywhere while you're straddling a fence !!!!! ....
Put off till next week , next month, next holiday or special occasion.
ASK YOURSELF ... do you want to continue to be part of this life-wrecking, spirit-breaking epidemic of overweight and obesity? DO YOU ??? You must decide once and for all .... IT is NOT okay to accept living life as a fence-sitter. GET OFF THE FENCE.
Same-old same-old just doesn't cut it anymore.
Committing to CHANGE
Don't plan yourself to death. LOL
*** Life rewards action... NOT good intention.. not insight ... not understanding ****
To have what you want .. you have to do what it takes.
The time is NOW
I liked this one....Crossroads.
16-20 Zero Hour
No turning back... it's not too late... you deserve more .... wipe the slate clean... reclaim your health and your life .
I don't care how much it hurts to change.
You want more.. so you are ready to do more
Already taking action... YOU make it happen
No matter where you ended up on this readiness continuum, no matter how much you weigh, no matter how disgusted you are with what you see in the mirror, NOW IS YOUR CHANCE.
using the seven keys..
Believe me when I tell you... IT IS POSSIBLE, YOU can do it, YOU are worth it.
You have what it takes... now is the time to do it.
Whew... I wrote a lot more than I planned. It took me longer to write about it than it did to read it.
I guess I needed to read it.. needed to write it ... and need to now DO IT !!!!