SUNNY - OMG .. wahooo .. look at you .. 20 gone gone gone... so pleased for you .. well done! I hope you are Happy Dancing round your place
WANNA - Im wondering what trigger the urge?? Is it similar every time?? Maybe you can learn to bribe yourself
I know that sounds weird . but its like I was saying to Dora about the chocolate and allowing yourself those moments. The longer you can delay the giving in the better the chance you have of working out why you want it .. rather than doing it without thinking. Last night I gave in to the Jelly Bellys that were sitting in the cupboard .. 100g of the darn things and 1500kj just at bedtime ... yep .. not good .. but I gotta admit I enjoyed every last one of them lol. So it wasn't a great week for you and the carbs won this round .. but its been acknowledged, accept it and move on. If carbs are your weakness .. maybe you can look into "safe" carbs. Have them ready for you to indulge in with the knowledge they are measure, the damage will be limited and you can satisfy the edge off the craving. Keep talking hun .. and we will back you up for sure
UBEE - I just had to go back and read what I wrote too lol .. it was a little muddled from what my head was thinking and my fingers were typing .. but hopefully it makes sense lol ... I thought I would bullet point it below to explain how I have dealt with those urges and hope that will help others
Where I am is a suburb in the Capital of NZ Wellington. Each of the bigger suburbs (which I am in one) usually has a mall with lots of shops in .. most of those are chains of stores that are found all over the city and country ... but there are the odd stores that pop in that are smaller and one offs .. I like helping in those because its more a personal thing than a red-tape place which just drives me nuts lol. I do like to keep busy .. Im a bit of an extremist I suppose .. when I am working I am a workaholic .. 40 hours is a short week .. Im usually 60-70 hours by the time I add in all the work I bring home and the early starts and late finishes lol .. but when Im not working I am not doing anything .. even housework is not something I will get enthused about lol .. but this never lasts for longer than a couple of weeks before I start going crazy and get bored bored bored lol.
Sooooo ..
CRAVINGS, URGES, BINGES .. whatever you want to call them .. we ALL face them daily. Intersetingly Alcoholism and Smoking are acknowledged as addictions .. but when you say to someone you are addicted to chocolate or salt or cookies or pasta ... people look at me and say no its not a real addiction .. you just choose to indulge .. sigh .. really?? Obviously they have no vices lol.
What do I crave .. and what do I give in to? It depends on my day .. boredom the craving is all sweet .. upset or hurt the craving is salt and savoury (comfort foods). The sweet is all about the sugar rush .. the surge of adrenalin and the high it gives me ... whats not to like about that? The savoury is about curling up on the couch or bed with a big plate of something like mac n cheese and indulging in a pity party in my PJs lol. Have I still done this over the last 6 months? Yes and no .. yes to the chocolate .. no to the pity party lol .. that doesn't mean I havent been upset or hurt .. definitely not the case .. but for that part of my life I have given myself an out to get through it without doing more damage to myself because of someone else's actions.
COPING
I have been hurt a few times over the last 6 months .. I don't talk about it to anyone ... or even cry in front of anyone .. even the man I love most ... and its not like he would have a problem with it .. but it was just the way I was bought up ... even in front of family keep smiling, no point bringing others down... this was drilled in at an early age ... so the warmth and comfort I would feel digging into something like mac n cheese held the tears at bay and it became an automatic go to when I needed to get through it. NOW .. I have discovered I need to get angry not hurt .. remind myself that sabotaging my health doesn't do anything to them .. but it just hurts me more .. the best part about not doing housework on a daily basis is that I then have a physical outlet to release that anger and hurt .. the house gets a good clean, I feel calmer and I also feel like I have turned something hurtful/painful into something positive because now I have a clean house and feel like I have achieved something
The harder one to counter is BOREDOM!!! Arrgghh .. the urge for that rush .. that spike in "happy" ... that energy .. even knowing the plummeting that comes after it doesn't distract me enough to not give in to it lol ... like last night .. I was supposed to be in bed and going to sleep .. but my head was ticking over .. instead of getting back up and doing some more cross stitching .. or reading ... I went out to the kitchen with a purpose, grabbed the bag of Jelly Bellys and ate the whole lot .. no surprise I didn't go to sleep until 3am lol ... but I did it .. and I didn't even stop to think about it .. broke my own rule about thinking first acting second .. it was almost like I didn't care .. and Im sure we all have those moments of doing something we know we should but "eh" (shrug) .. will do it anyway lol. I can spend a lot of time playing on my Farm in Farmville on FB to keep my mind and hands occupied .. but I do get bored with that once its all caught up .. so that is when I pick up a book and start reading .. then the bargaining starts to happen.
- I will just finish this chapter ...
- I will just finish this page ...
- Not much left of the book .. might as well finish the book ...
The whole time I have a bottle of water next to me and I will keep sipping at that ... if after all that bargaining I am still wanting something I will grab a piece of fruit for that sugar ... if that doesn't work THEN I will have a piece of chocolate then leave the room and start another project. If the urge for more hits me then the bargaining starts again .. This time with my cross stitch ..
- I will just finish this thread ..
- I will just finish this row ...
- I will just finish this section ..
sip sip sip (this is definitely how I drink so much water in my day lol) ..
My favourite deterrent is my meal time lol ... if I am within an hour of when I am going to eat its a mantra "no point dinner soon" "no point lunch soon" ... and then I start prepping the vegetables or whatever .. I have a nibble on some carrot while I am chopping them up and then dinner comes .. after I eat that is enough and Im happy to forget about the chocolate.
So there you go .. a couple of my coping tools ... hopefully they might trigger something to help you too .. and if you have a trick can you please post it to help each other?
Right .. off to hang out the washing and get the dishes done ... might grab a yoghurt and some Special K for lunch
Just did 30 minutes on the treadmill and will do it again tonight .. really want to train enough so that I can try to jog at least a little in the next Run I have signed up to at the end of March