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Old 07-29-2017, 11:21 PM   #1
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My hubs is out of town for business and I feel like it is so much easier to prioritize me in regards to working out or eating right. He packs leftovers for my lunch with massive serving sizes or decides takeout on a whim and gets my favorite. Gee thanks honey. How do I get him on board with the all or none mentality I need to get this process really going?
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Old 08-13-2017, 03:27 PM   #2
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Is he overweight as well or just an unhealthy eater?
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Old 08-13-2017, 06:01 PM   #3
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My hubby does the same thing. When you figure it out, please let us know .
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Old 08-18-2017, 05:19 PM   #4
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Have you tried just talking to him? Communication is key, maybe just a light-hearted conversation about how you're grateful he packs your lunch but go easy on the portions. Or, if he does take aways, have a pre-chosen new favourite that fits your plan and he's aware of. You said yourself it's unintentional, just clue him in so he can be unintentionally supportive instead! My girlfriend always offers me bites of her fries or the last chicken nugget, I just have to remind her of what I can and can't eat and she adjusts. Talk it out! It works!
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Old 08-22-2017, 10:22 AM   #5
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I have tried something new this time. My hubby is not overweight. And it took a long talk with tears and real honorsty from both of us. He Said to me, that he could see how much all this extra weight tortured me - mentally. He never had a weight problem so he needed to really listen why this is so damn hard. He is now on my team. And the dat i wanted to go to the bakery. He Said. Why?

So try to talk. Am sure the things he does, is in a good spirit.

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Old 08-31-2017, 07:05 PM   #6
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I'm not married but I have a dad that would do this and it's because feeding me and treating me is one of the ways he shows love. You have 2 options when it comes to dealing with this. The first and the one I would recommend is having the honest talk with him as recommended above and be prepared to keep reminding him till he gets used to it. This isn't what I did. But only because I have a phobia of my family becoming the food police. What I did instead was say things like "I don't really want to eat x anymore because it doesn't make me feel well. My digestion must be aging." or "lunch was delicious I'd just re pack my lunch by myself into the smaller portions I want to eat or get new designated small lunch designated as my lunch bowls which can only be filled so much. This second option is a lot of effort in my opinion, but good if you're worried about conflict or push-back.
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Old 09-02-2017, 06:20 PM   #7
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All or none mentality? I'm not sure I would go with this approach. In my experience this is what leads to binge eating and falling off the wagon.

Maybe you could try -

If he packs leftovers with large portions, only eat part of what he packs?
If he brings home takeout eat a small portion and supplement with healthy choices?

While a conversation might need to be had with him about eating healthier and your goals, depriving yourself with an "all or none" mentality might lead to bigger issues?
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