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Old 07-07-2014, 12:51 AM   #1
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Hi All,

I am feeling really down on myself and just want to vent--and would love words of advice and feedback from your experiences.

I'm that straightforward emotional and stress/anxiety related eater. I've seen success in the past but over the last few years, I've trickled back up on the scale. I've lost over 30 pounds and am on my way to my goal, but keep sabotaging myself.

I'm trying to sprint to the finish line, because I want to lose enough weight to feel healthy before trying to get pregnant. My husband and I decided we wouldn't try until I was at a healthier place. I think my over focus on this goal might be my problem. I just feel so sad about myself when I'm not "there" yet because I want to be pregnant now. Or, when I have a bad day/few days, it feels like I don't love my husband and my future family enough to stop eating or being lazy. I know that sounds really dramatic, but I need advice and support...so I figure I should be honest!

Any tips on how to stay on the right path? Note that I would still be trying to lose weight to be healthy regardless...it just happens to be this feels like the gateway to the next chapter in my life, so I keep wanting it to go faster.
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Old 07-08-2014, 05:23 PM   #2
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It sounds like you're putting a lot of stress on yourself by tying together these two goals. They are connected, so I can understand why you would do so, but...I think it might be helpful to change some of your thoughts and ideas about your weight. You have lost so much weight already! That's awesome! I hope you've celebrated a little bit. You are half-way there!

Maybe you can try to vary your workout routine, amp it up a little bit. By bringing diversity into your fitness plan, you might be able to distract yourself from the midway blues. Sprinting may not help, especially if you're prone to self-sabotage. I think you need to find a way to cope with your stress and tackle the emotional eating problem (by the way, me too!), in order to help yourself. If you don't address the emotional issue, it will just seem more difficult to address the physical manifestation of that issue, too.
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Old 07-09-2014, 11:44 AM   #3
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I have no advice but I'm in the same boat as you. I want to lose weight to help my efforts of trying to concieve

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Old 07-12-2014, 07:29 AM   #4
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I too wanted to lose weight and become a healthy weight before getting pregnant. Sitting here, 32 weeks gone, that didn't happen. I wouldn't change being pregnant for the world. I'll have enough time to loose it afterwards.

I was a BMI 31 when I had my booking in appointment. I haven't had no complications, touch wood.

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Old 07-24-2014, 08:47 AM   #5
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I'm just starting back here after having my son 12 weeks ago... I was at 195 when we got pregnant last july and I had zero complications from my weight.... I'm 5ft7.

You need to make the decision to try now, or stop obsession so much over how long its going to take you to get to a 'goal' for this pregnancy. It took my husband and I 6 months to get prego, we started trying in Jan of last year and had a miscarriage in May, and then got KU again in July. Baby was born 4/21/14.... I just worry that focusing so much on this, and then actually getting to your goal weight, and then... what if it takes you a year? What if it takes 6 months? Are you going to be so stressed out by the process of trying and potentially failing that you'll unintentionally sabotage yourself and gain?

You might want to talk with your hubby about all of this. Good luck!
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Old 07-28-2014, 11:32 AM   #6
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So I was in your boat and wanted to lose weight before pregnancy to make life easier on me and the future babe. I did not lose the majority of the weight, just about half. I was 180 the day we got pregnant. I will say that I wish I had stuck with it and lost the weight before hand, but it's hard than HECK to lose it with a newborn, toddler, etc. You have NO time to work out and NO time to meal plan like you do before you have a baby. I thought I had a packed/busy schedule before having my little guy and I laugh at myself now.
My advice would be to get to a comfortable weight before hand, but don't beat yourself up about getting all the way to goal. Those stories about how breastfeeding pops off the weight aren't true for 90% of people and you end up weighing a good 10-15 pounds more than when you started.
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Old 07-31-2014, 12:17 PM   #7
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maybe if it is something you and your husband do together. Have him help with meal planning and shopping, going for walks and working out together. It will help him understand what you are going through and get him "warmed up" for helping a lot when baby comes.
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Old 08-11-2014, 06:40 PM   #8
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This sound just like me, Im borderline diabetic, I'm 230 right now and I NEEED to lose weight ASAP. I know how to do it, yet I dont. What is wrong with me? I want another baby in the worst way I currently have a 5 yrs old about to be 6 soon and the DR. bascially said that you just have to lose weight and then the baby will come, but i have to lose weight I need help and I need it badly. Im feel the OP sooo badly. where do i begin.
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