Originally Posted by Mumof 2D
I deal with constantly on both sides of it. My best friend starves herself to be thin. The skin just hangs off of her bones. She looks horrible. But everyone always tells her she looks beautiful and she gets doted on constantly. I get jealous of the attention she gets but at the same time I am loosing weight and getting very strong. She has been making snarky remarks and has been getting very jealous of me. So it's a tricky relationship!
I also deal with both sides! Very thin friends who are UBER focused on staying thin at all costs... barely eat, and 1 that is underweight. I have been envious of the attention they get and the fact that every single type of clothing looks good on them. I have a harder time finding flattering clothes.
I also have a couple of friends who commented on my weight gain and said they were "concerned" about my health. It was extremely hurtful and painful to hear. Those same friends have not commented on my weight loss, and a few are now heavier than they were when they were critical of me. In other words, a couple of them gained weight and are now bigger than me. Not a single compliment or acknowledgement.
Basically, I have come to accept that people are going to be themselves no matter what, and I can only control myself and my reactions. There have been people who have commented every 5lbs down, and that is nice.
The thing with jealousy is it's all around, whether it's weight, at work, money, status, relationship status, and I try to keep my circle small and not engage too much in the weight "discussion."