I am freaking out a little bit these days as I start to begin dating again. My body is in an "ugly duckling" phase where I have loose skin on my lower stomach and boobs. I look a TON better in clothes than I did, but if someone saw me uhh..without them, it's embarrasing.
I'm not going to jump into anything with anyone, but it's in the back of my mind knowing that I would really struggle with it if it did happen. Other women my age that haven't had this weight loss don't have these flaws. Once I get to goal, if it isn't significantly better, I will have surgery but in the meanwhile I want to get out there and have good experiences.
The other thing is that I don't want men to know that I've lost weight. I don't want them to see my pictures from before and be turned off by it and think that if they settle down with me, I will get big like that with them. I know that I will never let that happen to me again, but they don't. But, I spent 10 years of my life overweight and married. It's not like I can just pretend it didn't happen.
I guess the "right guy" won't run away because of this, but even really good guys need to have an attraction spark.
Has anyone been through this and have any advice?