I am freaking out a little bit these days as I start to begin dating again. My body is in an "ugly duckling" phase where I have loose skin on my lower stomach and boobs. I look a TON better in clothes than I did, but if someone saw me uhh..without them, it's embarrasing.
I'm not going to jump into anything with anyone, but it's in the back of my mind knowing that I would really struggle with it if it did happen. Other women my age that haven't had this weight loss don't have these flaws. Once I get to goal, if it isn't significantly better, I will have surgery but in the meanwhile I want to get out there and have good experiences.
The other thing is that I don't want men to know that I've lost weight. I don't want them to see my pictures from before and be turned off by it and think that if they settle down with me, I will get big like that with them. I know that I will never let that happen to me again, but they don't. But, I spent 10 years of my life overweight and married. It's not like I can just pretend it didn't happen.
I guess the "right guy" won't run away because of this, but even really good guys need to have an attraction spark.
Has anyone been through this and have any advice?
HW: 225, lost 75lbs in 2011 LW: 150
Losing again starting from 190lbs - 10/16/2015
Small changes add up. Striving to better than yesterday.