You CAN do this! We dont have a huge food budget either. Are you able to get on WIC? Even if your 1yr old isnt on formula, they will give you milk, eggs, even veggies now! That can help. Also, sometimes the local Farmers Markets in the summers will take WIC vouchers. I know ours will. (im not on WIC but i use to be) Another option would be to grow garden, even in an apartment you can grow a small window/balcony garden. If youre not on Foodstamps, perhaps look into that- even if you just get it to get the healthy foods to help you, its worth it.
on other notes- You are a Beautiful person and youre reaching out for love and support, youre doing it already! No one in my house is dieting and I have my own "stash" of healthy foods so when the kids are having ice cream, i can grab my air popped popcorn instead. When we have dinner, instead of Mac N cheese for me, i make a salad.
You CAN do this! <3