30-Something's: Let's discuss our kids!

Holdensmom · 04-26-2007, 03:20 PM

If I were the girls parents I would want to know what she said. As the mom of a 3 year old little boy, we can't always control what our children say, but I can sure punish him for saying it. You have every right to be angry about how the situation was handled. It was definitley fumbled.

OK Lizzy · 04-26-2007, 03:26 PM

Yes, I definitely think the little girls' parents should have been called -- the treatment your son received would (unfortunately) make me second-guess other decisions made by the school administration.

Flutterby873 · 04-26-2007, 03:44 PM

I'm not a parent but I totally agree with you and think you have every right to be upset about the situation. The girl should at least be punished to the same degree as your son (in my opinion though what she did was worse, but I guess that's neither here or there). Its true that if the roles were reversed that your son would've gotten into a lot more trouble if he had said that to the girl. I think you need to let the school know that this girl should have her parents called at least to let them know what is going on. Its irresponsible of them not to inform the parents, and by letting her get away with that kind of behavior they are only making it seem like its okay to say that to anyone.

Clareh · 04-26-2007, 03:55 PM

Sorry for just dropping in on the thread. I agree that your son seems to be unfairly treated here but it did make me think a very upsetting thought.

It's really concerning that a 3 year old could say that word in context and the school should definitely be taking things further by talking to her parents. They both need to know it's an unacceptable word, but to be able to use it in a sentence, she must be being exposed to something, even if it's only tv.

luvmyfam · 04-26-2007, 05:32 PM

I think you have every right to be mad and frustrated. I am a mom, too. If either of my children had said something like that, I would want to know and would want to deal with it. It's completely prejudicial that the girl, who admitted what she said, got no punishment whatsoever.

Best wishes with this battle.

hmwrknmom2 · 04-26-2007, 08:33 PM

Thank you for letting me vent. I am a little happier with the situation than I was earlier BUT still not satisfied. What she, Dr B, said was since he was lying before they had to make sure it was the truth this time (about the little girl). Also he was "caught" spelling it and no one else heard her say it. It's kind of hard to jump up and say "Don't call my child a liar!" When you just caught him in a lie!!! But he said he made up the other story b/c he knew f*** was a bad word and he was embarassed to say what she said to him. BUT regardless YOU DON"T LIE. Now let me back up- Tristen got hurt last night at his baseball game. He got hit in the mouth with a ball. It cut the outside and inside of his lip and his gum. So his top lip was swollen over his bottom. So after the meeting and speech I went to buy him some straws. When I brought the straws back to school is when I was told that the girl admitted to it and she had been "talked" to. I called back up to the school to get the entire story from the teacher and the principal. Mrs. Moss later said she had written in the girls agenda daily book they bring home with homework assignments, if they got in trouble, etc. . Now Tristen came home and told me that the girl got d-hall. He had to sit in the office in an In School Suspension Room and she got to sit in classroom d-hall. So to me he was still punished harder than she was. So I am still not happy with the situation. I want a sit down meeting with me, my husband, Tristen, Mrs Moss, Dr B., the girl, and her parents. I demanded this earlier so we will see where it leads. But thanks again for letting me vent!!!!

LBH · 04-26-2007, 09:48 PM

Oh Michelle, I totally think you are right for wanting a sit down with all of them! That girl's parents need to know what they're teaching their 8 y/o daughter!!

BTW, I'm moving the thread to the "Let's Discuss Our Kids" thread...hope you don't mind!

hmwrknmom2 · 04-26-2007, 10:54 PM

No I don't mind at all. I was debating putting it here but I did not know if it "belonged" or not. Thanks!

luvmyfam · 04-27-2007, 12:39 AM

Hi!

This is a great idea. I'm a homeschooling SAHM, so obviously, my kids are a Huuuuge part of my life. Like someone else, I didn't start gaining weight badly until after having my first, so I can't totally avoid talking about them!!

I am Jenn, wife to R, mom to Paul (11), Maria (3) and one angel.

It's helpful reading the reports of other moms whose sons are going through a "thing." My son has been going through a "thing" the last couple months and I'm guessing it has to do with hormones, but it still makes it challenging. He has really grown in the last year, but sometimes I think doesn't realize how big a kid he's getting to be.

He is a perfectionist, but a frustrated, hidden one like me. You'd never guess it to look at his room (like looking at our unorganized home), but he is. He has always been harder on himself than anyone if he doesn't get things right or makes mistakes. He's also always been highly energetic, is very smart, but gets bored sometimes and acts out if he's bored.

Some of his behaviors have been amplified the last couple months and I'm guessing it's pre-puberty.

Then we have our Maria, who is cute, smart and a major HANDFUL!! She is the one who will find anything and everything to get into and we have to watch her like a hawk. She was upstairs in her brother's room today. When I went to check on her I saw that she had found a marker and had drawn ALL over the wall at the top of the steps with a good, solid blue. Lots of circles and scribbles. She said it was fruit and she was picking it and eating it *sigh*.

So it's nice to be here. I'm very new to 3FC, still finding my way around.

Take care!

LBH · 04-27-2007, 09:26 AM

LOL, Michelle, that's why I started this thread with:

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The good, the bad, the ugly...post it here!

(No diet talk here, go to the daily thread for that, just kid talk.)

JET,

Welcome! Sorry, I'm laughing at Maria's "artwork"!

We don't have anything buy washable markers here! I know my boys too well!!

michelinwoman · 04-27-2007, 09:26 AM

I have a 14-year-old daughter, only child. She is currently trying to talk me into letting her date in a couple months at 15. The only problem...the guys she is interested in are 16-17...we've all been there huh? I guess I will end up giving in since she is the only 14-year-old that isn't allowed to date that she knows

Sometimes I think a boy would have been easier!

michelinwoman · 04-27-2007, 09:33 AM

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A 3rd grade girl told my 3 grade son she wanted to F*CK him!!!!!!! I was like OMGosh!!

Michelle: My daughter is in 9th grade and has been homeschooled for the past 3 years. She really wants to go back to public school next year. She has had to deal with sexual talk since about 3rd grade....not only from boys, but girls also. I guess the "cool" thing is to say you are bisexual now so all the girls hit on each other and make up stories that straight girls are gay. It is really a mess. I blame the behavior on bad parenting.

LBH · 04-27-2007, 09:37 AM

michelin - that's horrible!!

If you do give in to dating, how about making a policy that she must invite the boy over to meet you first, like for more than 5 minutes. That way you can put the fear of God in him?!

Maybe allow them to have "dates" in your home first, like a movie or something? Or suggest "group dating". I know a lot of parents that have done that, where the kids basically all hang out together for awhile, until they're older and mature enough to date.

KnCmamma · 04-27-2007, 10:15 AM

I haven't posted on the 30 something board before, but liked this thread of parents and kids....so here goes my introduction...

I am Jen(34), a single mom to Katy(10) and Christian(7). Katy is as healthy as anything but a tad bit overweight(follows right in her mom and dad's footsteps). Christian is a different story. He has Down Syndrome, a heart defect(had one open heart surgery when he was 3 months old and requires another one around when he's 10 or so), has feeding issues(who knew that a kid of mine would have feeding issues..LOL) and is struggling to gain weight, is globally developmentally delayed...etc...

Here's some pics of my kids and me...

IrishJoan · 04-27-2007, 02:38 PM

I love seeing the pictures ...

hmwrknmom ~ Gorgerous kids. That little girl of yours is simply beautiful!! You are going to have to beat the boys off with a stick! You are right in demanding a sit-down meeting with staff and parents. I wish you good results!

luvmyfam ~ I can't help but giggle. I don't know how I've gotten away with no "artwork" drawn on our wall. I have three kids and they paint and color constantly but only on paper. However, you should see our table!

michelinwoman ~ I agree with Lauren's suggestions. Doing things in a group is much safer and puts less pressure on kids. However, I must admit that 15 sounds too young to date. We have kids in our neighborhood that are dating at 14 and that is nuts. I have a feeling that I'm about to be rudely awakened...

KnCmama ~ I couldn't help but laugh when I saw that you had a cat named, "Rory." Too funny. My oldest has *no* interest in food and we make him a huge milkshake each night; whole milk, ovaltine, malt, etc., etc...
You might want to consider that for Christian. Anytime that he wants a milkshake I give him one. That is about the only fat that he gets in his diet. Can't say the same for Mama....