My boss (who is about the same size as I was when I started losing) just stopped me and said, "How much weight have you lost this week?"
I told her: 4 pounds.
She said, "So, how much is that?"
I said: 25 pounds, total.
She said, "That's a lot to lose in 5 weeks, a lot. The problem is going to be maintaining, you know. You get that weight off fast and then you can't maintain it."
Grrrr!!!!
What do you say to something like that? I know it's hard to maintain a weight loss, but does that mean I should just stay fat? I've lost 25 pounds (once) before doing WW and it took me 6 months to lose it and I gained it back within 2-3 months! It's not about how much weight you lose, how fast you lose it or anything like that. It's about what you eat, how much of it you eat and how much you move. End of story! Who is she, having never lost a pound in her life, to question me and discourage me?
Lol if she were my friend I'd have said "how's that haterade tasting today?"
I'd have said "no actually it's not a lot considering my starting weight, and I'm not worried about mainting because I'm not on a diet, I'm on a lifestyle change."
I recently had a friend (who is my WW buddy and she got me started there) say recently that "its easy to lose weight, anybody can do that. The real hard thing is maintaining weight".
This is a person that is at goal weight and is a runner. She didn't say this directly to me, but it still was hurtful.
Its like she minimized the achievement of other people's weight loss so that she can say how she has it so much worse being at maintenance.
I'm sorry that happened. Some people can be so rude. She was jelous. I would simply advoid her as much as you can, and keep it just business. You hand in there, you are doing a fantastic job!D
You're doing great! And I agree with beerab...when someone says that to me, "oh be careful, you don't want to lose too much too fast", I just say that I'm watching my calorie intake with my activity levels, so I'm not losing too fast, and I'm not feeling deprived. I feel great, actually. And I know I can't expect rapid weight loss every week, but this is a great jumpstart and I'm thrilled about it.
Yeah, ole girl is jealous. Just keep it business like with her and next time she asks about your weight loss, tell her you'd like to keep that side of your life personal and don't feel it's professional to discuss it at work.
I agree with SweetMama...she's jealous, or self-concious or whatever that she's not doing what you're doing. She probably feels bad that she can't commit to losing weight, whereas you've made amazing progress!
Glad you vented, because then when others experiance the same thing, we won't feel alone!
Sometimes people are being passive-aggressive, and sometimes they're just talking because they like to talk and don't think first, and sometimes they're just projecting their own fears onto you. What you need is an answer to deflects them (doesn't drag you down into explaining yourself) and keeps it from getting to you (so you're not still thinking about hours later, when he's forgotten about it).
Kira has good advice: answer everything with "You're probably right," or "I know! It's crazy!" You agree with them, and then keep doing whatever you want to do. It's hard at first because you feel wronged and like you have a right to defend yourself. But most of the time, it's a battle you can't win. You can't logic people out of their illogical issues. But you find that if you try it a few times and let it go, you realize it doesn't have to get under your skin. Because how unfair is that?
you already got good advice, so I'll just add my geez louise that you had to experience that kind of denseness or whatever it was. Bask in the well earned success of your 25 lb loss! yeah!
I've got to tell you that dealing with people and the senseless remarks they make when they notice my wt loss is the very worst thing in the world for me to deal with. Somedays they come at you from every side. You get to see other peoples emotional baggage--no thanks -full up with crazy today, don't need yours too! You get to hear what people really thought of you all along or why they don't understand how people get fat in the first place. Backhanded compliments like "Oh, you don't look as fat in that outfit!" Uhhhh, thanks???
Sorry for the tirade. Now you've had to deal with MY emotional baggage--sorry!
It's hard. I have no good advice just tons of sympathy. Thank God for this sight and those that understand and have our back!
Last edited by ANewCreation; 08-03-2009 at 03:14 PM.
Boy, that is frustrating. I'm sorry to hear that. It happens, though.
My boss has been awesome. HE told me that if I ever need encouragement or feel like giving up, I needed to come to him. He would straighten me out. Ok, I will keep going!
Going to play the devil's advocate here but might your boss be worried about your health? 4lbs is a lot for a week but not unheard of. One of my coworkers did awful things to his body in order to lose 10 lbs in a week once and could very easily have seriously hurt himself. He gained most of it back the following week but at that point he was happy. Congrats on the loss though!
So, The Haterade Begins...
Grrrr!!!!
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