I'm also more attracted to women... and if you ask me, our husbands should be proud and flattered that we decided to marry them even though they're men, lol!
I've been in and out of the closet since my early teenage years... well, in and out of denial. So for the first 5 years of our relationship we thought I was straight.
I think my husband was even quicker to accept my sexuality than I was.
My case is also a little unique in that our relationship has some openness/flexibility.. and I can see how it might be a little weird for the partner in a 100% monogamous relationship.