I agree with a lot of what Aphil stated.
I am no where near being a goth. hehe In fact if you saw me on the street I'd look like just another 30 year old woman.
However, many of my views and beliefs do not fit in with the mainstream. The main two being that I'm a pantheist and also that my husband and I are child free by choice (something that the general public just can't seem to accept - "Oh honey you'll change your mind", ummm nope).
My husband and I are both pretty private people as well. We are not into crowds or big social gatherings. If we had it our way we would hermit away in the mountains somewhere.