My fiance was upset when I told him I joined this site. He feels betrayed that I can find more motivation in talking to a group of strangers on the internet than I can with him. I told him it's not that there is more motivation here, but just the fact that it's easier to report to strangers, especially if I fail one week. Also, his motivation includes saying things like "are you sure you wanna eat that, you're on a diet" or something similar. While I know he is good intentioned here, and tells me all the time I am beautiful the weight I am and don't need to lose, it kinda makes me feel bad. Rather than feeling the motivation not to eat it, hearing him say it makes me wanna cry. I don't know what to say to him to assure him what he says to me does matter, but that I need a different outlet sometimes.