3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > Support Groups > 20-Somethings

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 02-17-2017, 01:50 PM   #1
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 1

Default First time out with "new body"

Hey y'all! I'm new here and looking forward to any insight or advice y'all can offer!

So here's my little dilemma:
I'm a single mama to a beautiful almost 5 year old! This weekend I have the opportunity to go out for the first time since my son was born. Like actually go out! Like to a bar! It's a big deal lol. The problem is not only is this my first time going out in over 5 years, but it's my first time going out with my new "mom bod."

I've always been a little overweight and curvy, but when I got pregnant I gained almost 60 lbs. Though I've lost about half of that recently, I still have a ways to go. My question is: how do I go out and have fun when I'm not confident in my body?? It also doesn't help that my girlfriends I'm going with are skinny, pretty, and ultra confident!

I just don't want to be that sad girl sitting at the bar while my friends are swimming in drinks and compliments!
wks_jbb is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-17-2017, 03:46 PM   #2
=)
 
ThisIsMyRealName's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2017
Posts: 37

S/C/G: 230/219/170

Height: 5'8

Default

Buy yourself a new outfit!
ThisIsMyRealName is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-18-2017, 01:56 AM   #3
Still Chubby
 
tinneranne2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Beijing, China
Posts: 363

S/C/G: 77.1/73.7/59kg

Height: 172cm

Default

You see your girlfriends as pretty and ultra confident, but I bet if you asked them they could list all the flaws that they see in themselves as well. Fwiw, I'd chew my own arm off to escape boring conversations, doesn't matter how hot the guy is, so if you're not feeling confident in your body then focus on how smart/funny/interesting you are and feel confident in that! Wear something you find flattering and remember that you're out with your lady friends. They are great company even if you buy your own drinks. I hope you have fun!!!
__________________
2017 (re)restart!

No one gives it to you, you have to take it.

all time high: 200
2014 starting weight: 167 (down to 145)
2017 starting weight:170 hahaha oops
tinneranne2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-20-2017, 07:20 AM   #4
Determind Member
 
Scotsgal's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Scotland
Posts: 830

S/C/G: 323/270.2/168

Height: 5ft 6"

Default

Yeh go buy a slimming outfit, you will see yourself better in the mirror and feel more confident, make sure you put on some make up, and do your hair, and that will in turn make you feel much better. Like mentioned, they will be very weary about parts of their own bodies as well. so just go to have fun! just go to catch up, you not there to catch a date or have a who's skinnier competition. If they are as judging as your head thinks that they are? Then they aren't friends. You will be your own worst enemy, and not having a good time will be down to you beating yourself up about the extra 30lbs or so.

Just do as much of what will make you feel great!
__________________


First Big Goal is 280lbs!

Second Big Goal is to be 248lbs by the time my best friend gets married in June 2017

Third Big Goal is to be 218lbs by the time my other best friend gets married in November 2017

Fourth Big Goal is to be in Onederland by my sisters wedding in Italy in April 2018


Scotsgal is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-23-2017, 10:37 AM   #5
Tough Turtle
 
bloominbutterflies's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: Detroit Metro
Posts: 160

S/C/G: 171/165.8/110-115

Height: 5 ft 4.5 inches

Default

Maybe you are setting yourself up to think the evening will go in a way it really won't? I mean I used to think bars were all about people being cool and hooking up. But, as far as I can tell where I live that isn't really true. Maybe it's just the bars I go to, but usually the only people who talk to me or my friends, is me or my friends lol. Idk maybe we are all ugly? rofl! It's like the sexy bar scenes in movies/tv are like a myth. In the mitten people are just sitting around with beers and poutine minding their own business rofl.

But yeah a new outfit never hurts
bloominbutterflies is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-08-2017, 10:28 PM   #6
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2017
Posts: 1

Default Let this night out mark the new you

Adjust your mindset! You have realized a milestone!!! Embrace you as you are TODAY. It's the best you you can present today. I had to learn that as I am the mother of a teenage girl. I had to start practicing what I preach to her. So we both look in the mirror as we dress in the morning or whenever and say "girl you sure do look good today mmmm" "work it girl" I have practiced flirting with myself. No, I'm not mentally imbalanced, well that's debatable... No seriously I have decided to love the me I am and put my best foot forward everyday and be happy with me. I know it's a heavy thought but think of some woman on her deathbed. What would she say to you about self doubt and discontentment? She would say feel blessed you are beautiful and deserve to be happy. Life is too short to be unhappy. Don't compare yourself to others. You don't deserve that; treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. Self love is one of the kindest acts you can impart on the world. It will guide your actions. Now go buy a cute outfit and rock it! And do not forget to flirt a little in the mirror as you get ready for your night out! "Girl you sure do look good mmmmm!"

Last edited by Ariesgirl40; 03-08-2017 at 10:31 PM.
Ariesgirl40 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -4. The time now is 01:14 AM.



Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2