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Old 02-17-2017, 02:50 PM   #1
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Default First time out with "new body"

Hey y'all! I'm new here and looking forward to any insight or advice y'all can offer!

So here's my little dilemma:
I'm a single mama to a beautiful almost 5 year old! This weekend I have the opportunity to go out for the first time since my son was born. Like actually go out! Like to a bar! It's a big deal lol. The problem is not only is this my first time going out in over 5 years, but it's my first time going out with my new "mom bod."

I've always been a little overweight and curvy, but when I got pregnant I gained almost 60 lbs. Though I've lost about half of that recently, I still have a ways to go. My question is: how do I go out and have fun when I'm not confident in my body?? It also doesn't help that my girlfriends I'm going with are skinny, pretty, and ultra confident!

I just don't want to be that sad girl sitting at the bar while my friends are swimming in drinks and compliments!
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Old 02-17-2017, 04:46 PM   #2
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Buy yourself a new outfit!
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Old 02-18-2017, 02:56 AM   #3
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You see your girlfriends as pretty and ultra confident, but I bet if you asked them they could list all the flaws that they see in themselves as well. Fwiw, I'd chew my own arm off to escape boring conversations, doesn't matter how hot the guy is, so if you're not feeling confident in your body then focus on how smart/funny/interesting you are and feel confident in that! Wear something you find flattering and remember that you're out with your lady friends. They are great company even if you buy your own drinks. I hope you have fun!!!
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Old Yesterday, 08:20 AM   #4
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Yeh go buy a slimming outfit, you will see yourself better in the mirror and feel more confident, make sure you put on some make up, and do your hair, and that will in turn make you feel much better. Like mentioned, they will be very weary about parts of their own bodies as well. so just go to have fun! just go to catch up, you not there to catch a date or have a who's skinnier competition. If they are as judging as your head thinks that they are? Then they aren't friends. You will be your own worst enemy, and not having a good time will be down to you beating yourself up about the extra 30lbs or so.

Just do as much of what will make you feel great!

First Big Goal is to get under 280lbs! - The last time I was this weight was in June 2010

Second Big Goal is to be 248lbs by the time my best friend gets married on June the 24th 2017

Third Big Goal is to be 218lbs by the time my other best friend gets married on 30th November 2017

Fourth Big Goal is to be looking fabulous and in Onederland by the time my sister gets married in Italy in April 2018

Fifth and Final Goal! is to be 168 or below by the time I turn 30 years old in January 2019

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