Back story... I've been overweight my entire life. I lost a total of 40 pounds before meeting my boyfriend. This was three years ago. Since then, I have more or less maintained the weight loss. This last year, however, I completed my second year of law school. Unfortunately I also gained 12 pounds.
My boyfriend and I flew to visit his family immediately after our last final exam, so I did not even get a chance to decompress. Okay so the very first day I was there, his mother brought out some clothes she had bought for
me. She accused me of lying to her about my size--she said, "this isn't your size, this is Sarah's size". Sarah is my boyfriends older brother's girlfriend. She then said "well you can slim down". Later on she said "oh you mainly just gained weight in your belly", poking at my stomach as she did so. Then a couple of days later she brought up my weight again, asking both my boyfriend and I how often we worked out.
The irony is that at the same time, she is a horrible food pusher. I know all mothers are, but I just can't deal with it. This visit was two weeks ago. Ever since then I have been in a slump. I am a recovering bulimic and for a couple of days her words triggered a relapse.. I just feel horrible about myself, I feel like I'm not good enough for my boyfriend at all. Sometimes I dissolve in tears, sometimes I get mad, but I feel like I can never unhear what she said. Have any of you been in a similar situation?