"Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity"
When people make thoughtless remarks like that, they are rarely trying to be malicious or rude. She probably genuinely thought she was helping. I know that doesn't really solve the problem of how you feel, but it can help if you remember that most people aren't mean, they are just stupid.
That being said, if you feel that she really WAS trying to be snarky, and this is a habit of hers, I'd reconsider my relationship with that person.
I do like your attitude though. I've struggled with this in the past too... everyone says that if you overeat and get fat it must be either a health problem or psychological problem. I have neither, but that didn't stop me from trying to find one to blame. Now that I've accepted the fact that I got fat because I like food and hate exercise, suddenly things are going much better.
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