I hope you are all doing well. I just wanted to see if anyone is in/ is currently in a situation similar to mine. I've been planning to write this post for a while now, and I finally got the courage.
I've been overweight since I was in middle school, and this is something that has ALWAYS held me back in life. I used my weight as an excuse for not being more outgoing socially. I didn't care about how I dressed or how I looked, because I always told myself that I'd make more of an effort to look physically attractive when I finally
lost weight. The only issue was that I kept gaining instead of losing, which gave me even more of an "excuse" to prolong any positive change.
Guys made it very clear
that I wasn't physically attractive to them. I remember that someone told one of my crushes that I liked him, and I honestly can't forget the look of disgust he gave me. I watched as my cousins and friends found boyfriends and girlfriends while I just sat back watching, promising myself that my time will come for a relationship. That incident happened when I was about thirteen or fourteen and now I am twenty-two and still waiting for my chance.
As if now, I have lost about 45 pounds, and I don't feel any more attractive. I still feel ugly. I'm trying to make myself feel more physically attractive by wearing my contacts, changing how I dress, wearing make-up, and trying to be nicer, but I feel as if it is all in vain. Guys don't even look at me. In college, my friends and I used to go to clubs and guys would talk to them and not me. Ugh.
Of course, I now understand that loosing weight isn't the only thing that I need to do to become more internally and externally attractive. I am working on my mind/attitude right now, because I know that I have to love myself before I can expect anyone else to love me.
I plan on giving myself a make-over, but I don't know where to start! I don't have a lot of money, so I'd need to find new clothes on a budget. Does anyone know any physical or online stores where I can get cheap but good clothes? Does anyone have any tips having to do with skin-care? What about makeup tips for people with small eyes?
More importantly, how do I make myself more confident?
Any advice about how to fix myself physically and mentally is welcome! Thank you!