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Old 09-28-2014, 08:30 AM   #1
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Starting to get annoyed.everyone is noticing my weight loss . they ask what my goal is and I say 120 or maybe 110.they say no that's to low your going to look anorexic.how can you possibly know that when no one has seen me at that weight since middle school.not to mention I am 5'1. And both 120 and 110 are in the healthy bmi range.i hope when I do get to goal weight I don't hear people start saying I look anorexic im gonna need some witty comebacks
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Old 09-28-2014, 10:18 AM   #2
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People may make those comments for a variety of reasons. Some just don't like change. Others are threatened and there are those who just worry. It doesn't matter though because your goal weight is totally reasonable. Just tell them it's not up for discussion and stay away from discussing your weight loss with those people. I've had my parents worry that I'm too thin and I told them I appreciate their concern but that according to the medical profession and science, I'm not too thin and I don't want them to make those comments to me because I'm really working on getting healthier.

I'm not sure if that's a witty comeback, but it does the trick.
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Old 09-28-2014, 11:04 AM   #3
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I'm guessing most people making these comments are taller than you? For them, it's hard to understand how an adult can weigh so little. They might not realize you're only 5' 1"! Don't stress about it. In the future, instead of saying a goal number, you could say something like "I don't have a specific number in mind." They might have good intentions. They might not. I would try to brush off the comments.
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Old 09-28-2014, 03:05 PM   #4
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Folks that are taller often make comments like that, as Quiet Ballerina suggested. They think of how that weight would look on them as reference. Others may be jealous. Sadly saying someone looks anorexic does seem to be what some throw out as an insult. Some genuinely may be worried about your weight according to what they're use to, like parents, especially with anorexia/bulimia being so common in today's world.

In any case, definitely focus on getting healthy, and make sure they're aware that's what you're doing, and the medical side of things supports that weight. If you think they're genuinely concerned, maybe get together some of the medical paperwork that shows that's a healthy weight for your height, just so they're educated as well. At least that's what I'd try to do. As for the people just trying to be insulting.. I don't have a witty comeback. Ignore 'em, they're jealous
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Old 09-29-2014, 09:55 AM   #5
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I can sort of relate, I am a little taller than you but am still on the short side. I would just say that your doctor thinks this would be a good weight for you. Most of the people I run into are not doctors, and it's hard to challenge someone who is trained in a field that you are not trained in
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Old 09-29-2014, 09:19 PM   #6
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I have had those comments and worse. Among the best have got to be "are you having an affair?" or "are you sick?"

I have found that as I have maintained a lower weight that the comments stopped (both positive and negative). I also work out and as people have slowly noticed that, I have had fewer negative comments too about my weight loss.
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That sounds like something you can file under "things I really don't have to listen to". Nobody deserves to make any comments about your body but you. Unfortunately we are all guilty of making judgmental comments, mostly out of jealousy. I mean, my god, we're in a weightloss forum, who among us hasn't called something a "skinny *****" either behind their back or to their face?? Who among us hasn't spitefully told one of our skinny friends to eat a sandwich?

Just me?

All right, fine :P

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Old 09-29-2014, 09:47 PM   #8
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I have never been called a skinny b!tch. For the record.

But I would like to be.
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Ha. Wouldn't we all.
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I have had those comments and worse. Among the best have got to be "are you having an affair?" or "are you sick?"

I have found that as I have maintained a lower weight that the comments stopped (both positive and negative). I also work out and as people have slowly noticed that, I have had fewer negative comments too about my weight loss.
My mom watched a show on the food network called the neelys.they were married for 19 years hs sweethearts.she recently lost a ton of weight and divorced her hubby.for some reason every who talks about it thinks it's perfectly reasonable to lose a ton of weight and drop your non thin spouse.
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Old 10-03-2014, 09:01 PM   #11
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110-120 is perfectly fine for someone who is 5'1, especially if you have a good amount of muscle mass. LIFT WEIGHTS.

I'm 5'3 and 110-115 is pretty sustainable for me (anything lower and it gets iffy).
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