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Originally Posted by Claygirl1518
My goal is to get healthy, back to my college weight. My husband and I are also wanting to have a baby, and I want to be physically and mentally healthy before we take that leap. So far its going well! Ive lost 8 lbs using mfp and I just bought a fitbit. I'm also planning on joining a boot camp program next week. So far I am good, except when I talk to my family. They are awful! They can be so rude About weight. I don't understand why. My grandma said today that its a good thing that I'm losing weight because I'm not pretty when I'm fat. I work very hard to control my own negative self talk, its hard when people close to you actually say it to you. I love my family, but I think I just need to ignore whatever they say about weight, its not good for me! Anyone else have this problem? How do you tune out rude and negative people?
My Nana was never that blunt.
I'm sorry that you have to deal with that.
My Nana's refrain was "But your face is beautiful" the unsaid part being "But your body is so NOT."
My great aunt was a freaking harpy though. I'm fat, lazy, stupid, rude, ugly, disrespectful, dramatic, over-sentimental, weak....most other negative adjectives you can think of she would also apply to me, so I feel your pain.
To tell the truth, I could never ignore the negative comments. I listen too much, and I believe them! I have insanely low self-esteem as a result. When my aunt went on her rants, if I couldn't escape the room, I would stay silent and bite the inside of my mouth until I bled. Not the best way of dealing, to say the least.
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Originally Posted by kaybee1
Hi everyone! Side note that a couple of you have touched on - should we really care about BMI? It seems crazy to me that it's such a renowned method for judging weight. According to my BMI, i'm supposed to be weighing 145 at the TOP end of having a "normal" weight. That number is so far off the charts for me, I don't even want to go there - i will feel too skinny, i've been curvy all my life and I like it that way! My first goal is to get to anything in the 170s (haven't ever seen that on a scale before) and my end goal would be 160 i think. But I guess I would re-evaluate at 160 if I felt I needed to lose anymore - I honestly dont know a time when I weighed only 160 so it would be really weird just adjusting to that life!
I don't focus on that. I think my ideal weight according to BMI is 120 pounds
at the heaviest. D:
I think "really"?!
I know my body, I have big hips. The women in my family are short little creatures with wide hips, big boobs and big butts.
I want to look natural, which for me seems like 160+ pounds. If I weighed 110 pounds or whatever like I "should", I would look emaciated and sick, and I think I would feel just as unattractive as I do now. :/ It would be like the pendulum swinging to the opposite extreme.