I hardly have any experience dating but recently have been asked out by two guys, within 24 hours of each other (!). I went on first dates with both of them this week. They both went well and we're making plans to see each other again...
I feel weird about this a bit. On the one hand, I hardly know either of them and there's no expectation of commitment so it shouldn't matter - I wouldn't be upset if I heard they were going on other dates (as long as they weren't in a serious or committed relationship with someone else already).
But at what point does it become weird?
Also, they are in my same group of friends and we're all going to be hanging out tomorrow. I am freaking out a little because I don't want it to be awkward - I'm not trying to hide them from each other and if asked would tell them I was dating other people, but I can see it being a weird surprise if this comes up in a group discussion tomorrow.
Any advice? Am I screwing this up? I like them both a bit but I'm not head over heels with either, and I'm just not sure. They are both genuinely nice people, but I don't really feel much of a spark. I feel like I'm spending the date concentrating on being fun and attentive (and I think, succeeding), but not forgetting myself and having a great time. Honestly my metric is if the person can make me LAUGH. I'm very easy to laugh to smooth conversation and build rapport but if someone can truly surprise me with a witty or understated remark that is instantly a huge attractor. I'm not feeling that here.. but I think both of these guys are also pretty shy, so it could just be nerves, and I'm entirely sympathetic to that as I can be shy myself.
I don't know if my expectations are too high, but I'd like to get to know them a little better before making a decision... and yet I'm not sure when I've turned into some kind of "player".
So weird to be asking dating advice, I have no romantic experience.
Also I've never had to turn a guy down or break up with them. Ack. I don't even know how to do that and am terrified.
TL;DR: Dating is confusing.