Ok, I know it's taken me a while to get back to this thread, but I wanted to take the time to reply to you all
Thank you SO MUCH for taking the time to respond!
MiZTaCCen - Most of my family is overweight/obese, including my mom. We have a pretty good relationship though, and I sometimes feel like this is driving a wedge in it. I don't want to go clothes shopping with her anymore, because I'm afraid to pick up the size I actually need, and things like that.
Most of the women in my family are stubborn and loud. I'm no exception, so I do speak firmly to her… she usually stops when I do that. I just wish it didn't get to that point.
Riesz - I don't really consider what she's doing as sabotage (I know others certainly view that differently) because I'm perfectly fine with just not eating everything she gives me or just throwing it back if she gives me too much. I don't know, to me sabotage is injecting my food with lard or something, haha!
I really need to sit down with her and talk, like you've said. I've tried but I find it difficult for some reason because I generally just don't talk about my weight loss with anyone IRL unless they specifically ask me a question about it.
Daki - You know what? That letter is a great idea. I'm a much better writer, that's for sure.
I'll try talking to her again about muscle mass vs weight. She should really know though because she goes to the same gym I do and takes the same weight lifting class. This is something everyone in the class talked about
Jelbb - LOL that is a funny image! I wish that telling my mom to stop actually worked though.
I understand she might be concerned about me getting too thin, but I don't think I'm built as big as she thought I was. That and I don't really think she knows what a proper portion size is.
I've seen her doing some of the things I'm doing though, so I know she's probably watching me to see how I've been losing weight. So in one breath she's telling me to stop and then doing what I do to lose weight!! agh!
Riestrella - oh don't worry, I don't plan on letting her sully my parade
I'm sorry you have to deal with that with your mother
It really does suck to have a Mom that is jealous…
I don't know, I could understand being jealous of someone else's success…
I was jealous of my best friend's weight loss until I realized that I could sit around being jealous or I could do something about it and also support her. That's pretty much how I got here (and I've told her she was pretty much the reason I started).
djs06 - That is a great suggestion that I'm SURE will work in my house. I've used statements like that before when my mom has been unreasonable with other things. Thank you, I'll give that a try
candice1022 - LOL I don't know if threatening to move out will help. I think if the economy were better she would have wanted me out already. Then again I get mixed signals from her, so I'm not sure.
Isis21 - Oh my gosh the "helpful" opinions!! They annoy me so much!
I think the letter or email might work, since like your mom, my mom will get defensive and I won't be able to get a word in. Most of my family is like that, and I find it difficult to talk to them sometimes. My Dad isn't though, and I seem to take after him in that respect.
jeminijad - Like I've said above, I don't really see what she's doing as sabotage…just a minor annoyance. I and I alone am responsible for what goes into my body. I don't have to eat everything she gives me.
I would love to move out. It's easier said than done on Long Island in this economy. Right now I'm in the process of saving up my money and my goal is to move out sometime later this year. I have my fingers crossed!
gogosj - That must be so frustrating!
baker23 - I'm hoping that's the case. I know for people who haven't seen me in a long time that it's been pretty shocking for them.
astrophe - I've told her I've stopped losing weight and I'm eating more.
It's sort of a toss-up as to whether I'll serve myself or she'll serve me. Most of the time I try to serve myself, but there are times when she just serves everyone depending on the dish. Usually if there's not enough room on the table for a particular dish, we go into the kitchen and she puts it on our plate. I live in a small house, with a small dining room and table. There's five of us so there's barely enough room for US at the table, let alone the food!
And yeah, I do put it back in the pot in front of her, but if I just don't feel like dealing with her, I'll eat the amount I originally wanted and just leave the extra she put in uneaten.
pockets - I'm surprised she's not really all that supportive of this…she's been supportive in every other area of my life.
for every 5lbs! 
