People look at me like I'm a fool
01-11-2012, 02:49 PM
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People look at me like I'm a fool
Anytime I tell people I want to lose around 75 lbs people look at me like i'm a fool.. I have had numerous people tell me "don't set such high goals" for me a 5lb goal here and there is worthless.. i rather say I lost 12 lbs this month or whatever.. i don't like the look i get that basically says "yea right you'll never lose that much!" It's just annoying to me, maybe its because i'm in a new state where people have only seen me at my heaviest... but I have lost a lot before... i guess I'm just getting anxious because I cannot wait to make them all eat their words..don't get me wrong I am doing this for me... but it would totally be great to show everyone that doubted me!
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01-11-2012, 02:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Bellasmommy924
Anytime I tell people I want to lose around 75 lbs people look at me like i'm a fool.. I have had numerous people tell me "don't set such high goals" for me a 5lb goal here and there is worthless.. i rather say I lost 12 lbs this month or whatever.. i don't like the look i get that basically says "yea right you'll never lose that much!" It's just annoying to me, maybe its because i'm in a new state where people have only seen me at my heaviest... but I have lost a lot before... i guess I'm just getting anxious because I cannot wait to make them all eat their words..don't get me wrong I am doing this for me... but it would totally be great to show everyone that doubted me!
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This x a million. I'm sorry they make you feel this way, but just wait until they can eat their words haha.
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01-11-2012, 03:19 PM
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It could also be that people don't believe you have 75lbs to lose and think that you're trying to be a stick! I have that problem. So maybe it's more of a compliment than an insult, however frustrating that is haha.
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01-11-2012, 03:25 PM
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Pardon me for sticking my beak in but... this is why we have online forums where people understand and appreciate your goals.
I was having a conversation about weightloss with a nice woman who I know didn't mean any harm but she was telling me that she used to be huge "a size 14 or 16". I laughed and told her I was currently wearing a 18/20.
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01-11-2012, 03:34 PM
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I know how you feel. I want to lose over 100lbs and I am sick of peoples opinions.
Last edited by MarieA : 01-11-2012 at 03:35 PM.
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01-11-2012, 03:48 PM
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I honestly don't tell anyone my goals anymore...I'd rather just do it and get it done, than have to listen to anyone's well meant advice (esp. from people who don't have weight problems) or have someone watching every single bite of food that goes in my mouth.
My husband was made aware of my goals (YAY!) and that's IT! =]
Good luck with your 75!
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01-11-2012, 03:52 PM
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fake it till you make IT!
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I hear ya! I have 100 lbs to lose but the thing that i get that people say to me is REALLY??? U DON'T LOOK LIKE YOU NEED TO LOSE THAT MUCH! I hate that bc I feel like they're trying to be nice but they know I'm big. Telling a girl thats 250+lbs she doesn't need to lose that much I think is down right mean.
Oh & I also can't wait to prove people wrong either. Especially my jerk of an alcoholic woman abusing brother who called me a fat wh*re & fat slut about 20 x's in a row 3 weeks ago (mind u hes 5'9 & pushing 210). Luckily i i live states away from him but I cant wait till he sees me again so he can feel as dumb as he looks. (lol sorry little rant)
Just use those peoples stupid comments as ammunition to fire off! 
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01-11-2012, 03:56 PM
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Hahaha more modivation to get it off...but seriously, Never listen to other peoples comments when it comes to weightloss. Because ultimately its about you and your body. 75 pounds at your height puts you at a good weight and i'm sure you'll be able to get it all off.
I have people telling me now that I don't need to lose more, but I know my body, and I know my weight is to high for my frame. Wish people would just say something nice like good luck xD instead of all their opinions on the subject
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01-11-2012, 04:30 PM
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Anytime I tell people I want to lose around 75 lbs people look at me like i'm a fool.. I have had numerous people tell me "don't set such high goals" for me a 5lb goal here and there is worthless.. i rather say I lost 12 lbs this month or whatever.. i don't like the look i get that basically says "yea right you'll never lose that much!" It's just annoying to me, maybe its because i'm in a new state where people have only seen me at my heaviest... but I have lost a lot before... i guess I'm just getting anxious because I cannot wait to make them all eat their words..don't get me wrong I am doing this for me... but it would totally be great to show everyone that doubted me!
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Well its good that you know whats what a least. Its awesome what youre doing and I wish you the best.
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01-11-2012, 07:09 PM
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As much as talking to your friends and loved ones is amazing, when it comes to weight you just cannot listen. This is why I'm here - I don't talk to my boyfriend, my friends or my parents about all the little details, my goals, my aims - it's all noted down here because you all understand. It's what makes this forum so amazing!
I tell friend and family my successes and that's it. They're supportive and know I'm losing weight, but I leave the numbers out of it because you get all sorts of comments like "you'll waste away!" "don't get too obsessive over it!"
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01-11-2012, 07:50 PM
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well, what everybody else said...
but also, why would you feel the need to tell people you wanna lose those huge amounts? i mean, it's none of their business, first of all. but just saying you want to lose weight (or you want to lose a LOT of weight) should be enough, no?
stating your big numbers at the end is understandable, and you totally have bragging rights, but it just seems weird to me to go around proclaiming it at the beginning of a weight-loss journey.... i dunno. maybe it's just me.
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01-11-2012, 07:52 PM
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I had this problem with a lot of my family as well. When I told them I needed to lose around 50lbs they laughed at me and said "good luck" in that snide sarcastic tone. My mum also took me aside and tried to tell me I would never be a "thin" girl, my thighs and shoulders were just far to big lol
I am almost there and can't wait until I can say I did it and rub their noses in it! Its going be to glorious!
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01-11-2012, 10:47 PM
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The number might seem large, but you will be amazed when you lose the weight and look back. I've lost almost forty pounds since my highest weight, and I can barely believe that it is forty pounds. I haven't even reached my goal weight yet, so that number is bound to grow. Also, those people may not understand what 75 pounds mean as you do, since weight looks different on every body. After a while of experiences with unwanted comments, I've stopped talking so much about my diet plans & weight loss. My friends just end up warning me not to develop eating disorders. >.>
It's okay not to talk about it with other people, and maybe even best. They just don't know your body as well as you (or your doctor) do. Just know that you're doing a great thing for yourself and that, in the end, those other people don't count nearly as much as your health.
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01-12-2012, 12:09 PM
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Amber
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Thanks everyone! I'm glad to hear i'm not the only one going through this. I guess I could avoid the issue all together by keeping the number to myself.. i guess it just feels more realistic to say it outloud.. lol
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01-12-2012, 01:58 PM
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Originally Posted by KawaiiCandie
well, what everybody else said...
but also, why would you feel the need to tell people you wanna lose those huge amounts? i mean, it's none of their business, first of all. but just saying you want to lose weight (or you want to lose a LOT of weight) should be enough, no?
stating your big numbers at the end is understandable, and you totally have bragging rights, but it just seems weird to me to go around proclaiming it at the beginning of a weight-loss journey.... i dunno. maybe it's just me.
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I also don't understand why people state their weight loss goals to their family/friends then actually get upset when their family/friends make comments about it. It's like: if you didn't want someone to make comments about something, why did you bring it up in the first place? Not all comments will be helpful or supportive and people have to realize this. Getting upset at other people over something that was well within YOUR control, is wonky IMO. When I started to lose weight, I didn't tell anyone my goals. ****, I didn't even tell anyone I was losing weight. Then, this past Christmas, a year since I last saw my family, I arrived home 80 pounds lighter (about 50 pounds lighter than when they last saw me) and everyone was all like, "Good job!" "You look great!"  One person didn't even recognize me. My philosophy is that if one cannot handle potentially negative comments about a topic, then do not even broach the topic. So, if you cannot handle negative/seemingly negative comments from family/friends regarding your weight loss journey, then don't tell them about it. Make it a surprise! 
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