Who are you most looking forward to seeing you when you reach goal?
I am well aware that this thread might seem a little shallow and focused on my vanity.
Nevertheless, a lot of my boyfriends and dates have broken up with me because of my weight. They were attracted to me in private but when it actually came down to going out in public, and meeting people we know etc, they would break up with me. I don't need a man to treat me like that. A boyfriend should love and be proud of me at what ever size I am, but the men I seem to date are shallow.
So I am so looking forward to bumping into my ex's and showing them exactly what they're missing
Who are you most looking forward to seeing when you reach goal?
Probably my parents, since they've given me non-stop crap about my weight for a decade or so. Not that they're the reason I'm losing weight, but it'd just be nice to visit once without hearing about how I'm going to die imminently. Even though, of course, they both chain smoke, drink too much, Dad's already had a heart attack yet eats 5000 calories worth of french fries cooked in lard in one sitting, etc etc.
Nevermind that they were giving me the same amount of food as my tall, construction worker father at every meal from the age of 5 onwards and were of the "you finish your plate even if you're already full" attitude. I'm sure that had nothing to do with me being overweight as a child and teenager.
Last edited by cortandcooper; 07-31-2011 at 06:26 AM.
My family were like that, they've never hassled me about my weight, but my whole family, including aunts, uncles, cousins, grand parents etc are the types of people who cook for the 5000 then make a bit extra just in case. You had to sit at the table until you'd finished what you'd been given, it was bad manners to leave anything. That coupled with family stress/drama means I hadn't developed a healthy relationship with food. Every family gathering, party, was centered around food, so my weight ballooned.
Especially the people who try and sabotage your weight loss. Lots of people who know I'm losing weight will try and tempt me with cake and chocolate, cheese and wine or make a big show of eating my favourite bad foods in front of me (I don't mind people eating bad food in front of me, but when they make it perfectly obvious that its just to show you 'what your missing' its hard), so far I've stayed strong and resisted because I want to lose weight so badly.
honestly? Everyone. When I read this question, names kept coming up- then more- then more. Only a few of them would be "nah, nah, nah"s
I agree.
But especially two of my ex-boyfriends. I want their jaws to hang when they see me looking hotter then ever.
And my family, so they can finally see me looking better than they expected and better that they thought possible. My mom especially - she has a weird theory - you have to eat small amounts of the food you don't like - cause it's the only way to lose weight. And she also believes it will take me years of denying myself to get the weight off. No mom- actually it's going to take just a few months and I'll eat what I like. I just need to enjoy my food in reasonable amounts, and not to gulp it down so I can feel better.
And the last ones are my two best girl- friends. I want to finally complete a promise they heard me make a thousand times...
But I mostly look forward to seeing ME, in the mirror, knowing that I conquered this daemon, and that I can finally wear whatever I want and feel 100% comfortable with my body!
Last edited by hotHealthy4life; 07-31-2011 at 08:51 AM.
One very specific ex. He actually told me once if I lost 50lbs I would be worth marrying. Needless to say we didn't last too long after that. Also my family. They have always been so supportive of me losing weight and I can't wait to show them I actually did it
Everyone, yep. My ex especially, not because he dumped me. I did actually, I was so unhappy with him that I managed to gain over 40lbs in the year and a half we were together. I want him to see me, smaller and happier then he ever has, while he is in his 30's, in 7 different medications for high blood pressure, cholesterol and everything of the sort.
AND those people I know who need to lose 50/60 lbs and want to have bypass surgery because they think it is so impossible to lose the weight by themselves. Like surgery would solve their problems.
My sister, too. She is now 20 lbs or so overweight and is feeling helpless and a victim because she was very skinny all of her life.
I'd have to say old friends. I was always "the fat friend" out of the group. It will just be nice to finally have them see me differently. And my sisters and brothers. They are all really tall and thin. (my sisters are both underweight). Then there's me. 5'2" and 204lbs. It would just be nice to get a family photo of all of my siblings and not look like I was adopted.
New people! I want to be confident and not worried about how I look when I meet people, whether it's guys I'm interested in or new friends.
I can only think of one person who made fun of my weight (and stretch marks which was more upsetting) that I would like to show up. But he was much more overweight than me. He also has a very big girlfriend now, so I know he only said it because I rejected him. I really shouldn't be upset about it. But I still am, 3 years later.
Thank goodness I'm not the only superficial one because I'd love to see the look on my most recent ex's face. Only because he did me very wrong and I'm a firm believer that looking good and being happy is the best revenge.
Last edited by ladolcevita26; 07-31-2011 at 01:29 PM.
My family, My ex's My best friend. All for a range of reasons. Some good, some bad. All valid (to me anyway). Can't wait to be able to show people what they missed out of and others what reward they get for sticking with me (my best friend) they git a skinny, healthy, vibrant friend!
Definitly my last ex, he was abusive and degrading and when i was with him i gained 20lbs... as well as my grandma since she raised me and i want her to see me happy and skinny! and also my boyfriends' ex because more for him i want her to see him with a pretty, fit, 20 year old hahaha! and just everyone else new people, people i've known forever, myself in my reflection... i've always been the 'chubby girl' and im kinda getting tired of it
Who are you most looking forward to seeing you when you reach goal?
