Originally Posted by luciddepths
I think its great when someone is comfortable and overweight, but when someone walks.. and EVERYTHING moves? i think thats inappropriate or when the bottom part of the bikini has a huge flab of skin over it (not talking about alittle but... a lot)...
You know part of me agrees, but it's a small part, and that's because if "EVERYTHING" moves and jiggles, you can't feel covered up enough. A winter parka and snow pants aren't enough to hide the jiggle.
If I covered up every part that jiggles, I'd have to be covered from the eyeballs downward, with only my hands and feet showing (even my ankles and wrists would have to be covered).
There are so many self-appointed fashion police, and so many socially-determined double standards, it can drive self-esteem to the devil.
I have so many fashion don'ts drilled into my head from my family and our culture, it get's ridiculous. I can't wear anything without breaking a fashion rule, and I can't wear nothing, because that would really be revolting, and I'd have to poke out my eyes those of anyone who accidentally saw me, but then again they'd poke their eyes out before I could get to them (thankfully my husband and I don't believe that. Fat sex is awkard enough without trying to do it clothed).
Only wear dark colors, they're slimming.
Never wear bright colors, you'll look fatter (besides what do you have to be so cheerful about).
Never wear a skirt above the knee (knee fat is ugly, especially back of the knee fat, ew gross).
Never wear a skirt that is too long, it will make you look too old (or too like a hippy).
Never wear a skirt that is very full, it will make you look wider.
Never wear too sheer a skirt, people might see an outline or some jiggle.
Never wear too heavy a fabric, it will make you look bigger.
Never wear a skirt without nylons (if you can't wear nylons because they blister your thighs - too bad for you).
Never wear a skirt with flats (if you can't wear heels because they're uncomfortable or you twist your ankles, well that's too bad for you too).
To recap skir rules, when wearing a skirt, always choose dark, solid-colored skirts that aren't too thin, and aren't too wide, aren't too thin of material and aren't too heavy a material, aren't too short, aren't too long, always with nylons and always with heels.
Never wear short sleeves. 3/4 length sleeves are pushing it.
Never, ever, ever, ever wear strapless or sleeveless tops. Arm fat is really super, super gross (all that jiggling and all). If it's 120 degrees in the shade, well too bad for you.
Sweating is ugly. Fat people should never, ever, ever let anyone see them sweat (which means if it's 120 degrees in the shade, you have to stay hidden in your house, because otherwise they'll see you sweating - and fat, sweaty people are REALLY gross).
Never wear shorts, ever (see previous sweating and knee fat rules). Capris are acceptable if and only if you have nice ankles. If you have cankles - too bad for you, no capris.
Never, ever, ever wear white pants - you'll look like a cow.
Never, ever, ever wear slinky knits - your cellulite will show through - and no one wants to see that.
Never go braless, you want to put out someone's eye.
Never run anywhere, you will jiggle, and that's just gross (as we've already established).
Never wear linen. Wrinkles are bad, and on fat people it's a crime.
Never let anyone see your belly, not even a tiny bit - Jiggling, you know.
Never wear a belt, and never tuck your blouse in, You'll look like humpty Dumpty.
Never wear your blouse untucked - it looks sloppy (how you manage to always tuck and never tuck at the same time, I don't know. I just know that both are "wrong").
Never wear clothing that's too big. Never wear clothing that's too tight (what's too tight? what's too lose? Everyone has an opinion, and whatever you think, is probably wrong).
Even if you have great boobs, don't show any cleavage - you'll look like a slut. And looking like a slut is bad, but looking like a fat slut is just pitiful.
Never, ever, ever, ever be seen in a swimsuit. Never ever go swimming (even in shorts and a bra and t-shirt because wet t-shirts show the jiggle) even if swimming is the only exercise you can do. Even if in the water is the only place you can feel physically comfortable. 150 degrees outside, too bad no swimming for you.
If you are rude enough to wear a swimsuit, make sure it looks like a tank (not a cute tank top - an army tank. Very thick, very dark, very confining, and ideally bullet proof).
Always wear full makeup and have your hair carefully styled - otherwise people will assume you don't bathe.
Don't wear anything that's not in fashion. Being fat is bad enough, but being fat and uncool, that's just sad.
If it's in fashion, you probably shouldn't wear it. Who do you think you are, anyway? Definitely not someone who deserves to be hip. And a fat person trying to be hip is just really sad. You must choose clothes that are in fashion enough not to be uncool, but not so fashionable that they're trendy.
If you want to look sexy, don't bother you can't.
Always have sex fully clothed and with the lights off - better yet don't have sex at all, you really don't have the right.
Above all, never let anyone see you naked or even nearly naked - not your doctor, not your lover, not your husband, not even yourself. No one needs to see that!
Cover your mirror - shut your blinds, stay indoors - no one should be forced to look at you until you're normal-sized and not so jiggly.