WOW Val..I can see how this is so upsetting to you and I think the guy who posted here hit the nail on the head. The fact that your dh is gone for months at a time, and you're on base with tons of eligible men and looking smoking hot..well, he's bound to be insecure. Of course, that doesn't mean that you should gain or even just maintain for him, but I can see the thought process there. When I lost 50 lbs a couple years back my husband LOVED the way I looked, but had those insecurities which weren't as apparent before, and we're together every day so he saw me all the time and how my body was changing. I can imagine what a shock it was for your hubby.
Give him time (it sounds like he's already coming around a bit), and keep at it for you and your children. Being healthy is most important. I had friends and family members telling me I had lost too much weight and I flat out told them that I was still in healthy range and if I got below that and still wanted to lose, THEN they could talk to me. Until that point (which I never reached), I didn't want to hear it. My aunt once said "Oh, Rocki, you're not going to lose any more weight are you? You're too skinny". I plainly said, "yes, I plan on losing at least 10-15 more lbs and I would appreciate it if you would support me or just not say anything at all". It was hurtful coming from her and I don't even see her much (although we are close), so I can imagine coming from your husband that it's really upsetting.
You'll be fine and hopefully hubby will deal with it and talk to you about his feelings..
Hugs to you and I'm so happy your dh is home for a bit! I know you've been wanting to be with him.
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. I'm not happy about my current weight. I don't want to put weight back on or even maintain.
