[luciddepths]

So i'm a pretty emotional person...but logic rules me more... but lately?
i'm really struggling.. my dh/bf has been away since april 22nd. We have been together going on 6 years. He is working on his parents farm, which is awesome helping them out and it gives him extra money to pay things off.

But i'm really struggling with him being gone, he has came back all total of 5 days in that time...I just feel so out of touch with him, i just want to cry. I almost have nothing to talk about when i talk with him. Dont get me wrong he is my world, i love him more than anything and he does back. its just being on my own these few months i hate it. In all the years we've been together the longest we've ever been apart was a month. So i know its not that much more than a month, but i'm now living at my parents... so thats added stress. last time he went to help his parents we were in our own apartment or house, it wasnt so bad then. This go around i'm losing my bananas. Its been good for me- made it easier to focus on weight loss and what not..

Does anyone else have a spouse that is either working away from home or works away from home alot? How do you deal/manage it? i'm sure its just the added stress of being at home living with my parents and him being gone and we've never really been apart..

I know he wants to save up as much as he can, so thats why he hasnt really come to visit, but...it FEELs like he doesnt want to come home to see me I'm going there next week for 2 days..

I just wish he would come home every 2 weeks for 2 days.. i dont feel like that is too much to ask. I dont want to ask him that because i told him that when he left that i want him home at least every 2 weeks.

I dont want to bring it up because i know how hard he is working.. UGH


sorry.. RANT done


anyone else in this boat?

[Wild Vulpix]

Long distance relationships suck. My boyfriend and I are also apart for the summer--and I'm used to living with him and spending all my waking moments by his side, so it's vastly different.

But even though we're 1000 miles apart, we spend a LOT of time together. We play games online, call each other, text, webcam chat, trade photos... So it almost feels like he's right there with me because we still do get to spend so much time together.

Do you two have webcams?

And if you don't have much to talk about, well... You could always be a bit over-the-top flirtatious that'd surely make him excited when he sees you, and keep that bond strong.

[luciddepths]

thats how we are too, every moment together.. lol

Well with him working anywhere from 4 hours to 18 hours its very hard to do alot of things.. so we definitely text and chat.. with our internet speeds being so slow (both on farms ) webcam - impossible before when we lived in the city we could do that. it DEFINITELY helps.

We do send pictures and what not.. hes all over that.. But lately i dont even feel like that, sometimes you want more ya know? I should just suck it up and do more things like that - even if i'm not feeling it i know he will!


Thanks Wild, i appreciate you responding to me any help on this is amazing for me thank you

[broadwaydreamer]

Hey luciddepths-

Long distance is one of the hardest things ever for a relationship as a whole and for individuals. My fiance went abroad to Scotland (I'm in Washington, DC) for a whole year and when he came back his parents were very controlling over his time so it was really hard for us to see each other then. Before he left, we made a promise to communicate in someway everyday. If you don't already do this, I'd say maybe try that. It's great because even if its just a brief little message it was something to have during the day and look forward to later.

I also find when we're apart to be a great time to really focus in on myself, my diet and my lifestyle because not only does it keep my mind distracted it helps me feel better about how I'll look when we see each other next.

I hope that those few words of advice and knowing that you have a big group of people here to support you makes it easier.

[bama girl]

Tell me about it. I haven't seen my boyfriend in almost 2 months because he is away working at a summer camp, but usually we are together almost all the time. It's no fun, but we talk every single day, and it's worth having to wait because I can't wait to see him again.

[FreeSpirit]

My husband is in the Marine Corps. His last deployment he was gone for 7 months and I spoke on the phone with him probably one every 2 weeks and got an e-mail probably once every other day. He's gone again this time in Afghanistan for 8 months, I have received an e-mail, phone call, anything from him in the last 5 days.

Am I concerned for his safety? Yup. Do I miss him? More than anything. But that doesn't stop the world. MY world still keeps moving. It has to. My best advice is to stay busy, so you have more to talk about. Play phone games, like asking each other questions. Use this as a tool to make your relationship stronger. Maybe read a book together, or watch a movie together over the phone or something.

[luciddepths]

thank you ladies i appreciate all of your input!