Yesterday I went to Wegmans with two of my girlfriends to buy ingredients for dinner. Once a week one of us cooks dinner for the other two and we sit and watch trashy TV together.
So we were walking around the store buying the groceries, when I spot a display of kettle chips that are on sale. And I say, "Oh, kettle chips!" My friend 'Jill' looks at me and says, "No. You don't need chips." I must have looked shocked, because she rolled her eyes and kept walking past the display. And then our other friend, 'Helen', mentions that she wants some potato chips herself. So Jill swings the shopping cart right around and heads towards the snack aisle. And Helen says something to the effect of, "I think it's funny that you told Katie she couldn't have chips, but you're leading me right to them."
I voiced my agreement with Helen, and Jill replied along the lines of, "Well, Katie, you said you're watching what you eat and you're losing weight, so you can't eat something like chips." I was like, OK, well she misunderstood what I'm doing, so I correct her by saying, "I'm eating things in moderation. I'm not completely deleting stuff out of my diet. Otherwise I'll end up binging on things." And Jill gives me the Look. The Look that says, "Yeah right, whatever you say, idiot."
@#$%! I've been so excited about my progress and have talked about it with friends. But I've never asked them to keep me in check. And I've been clear about what I'm doing: I eat in moderation. I'm eating a mostly whole foods diet, but I do allow myself treats. If I didn't, I'd end up going overboard! And the big kicker is that I've never had a problem with chips. Out of all the bad snacks I could possibly eat, I've never been one to down an entire family-sized bag of chips. I can take an appropriate portion of them, eat them, and be totally satisfied for DAYS! And the fact that Jill didn't believe me, despite never having seen me scarf down chips, kills me.
She's not the only person to have made comments about my weight loss progress. Another friend, 'Emily', suggested that I was starving myself last week when I mentioned around dinner time that I had only eaten an orange and some oatmeal so far that day. She apologized when I told her how insanely busy I was, and how that rarely ever happens to me, but her comment ("You're not going to successfully keep losing weight if you starve yourself.") was in front of a group of friends and the fact that I even had to defend myself sucked.
Why are people making uninvited comments and decisions about my own weight loss journey? By the way, I never bought those chips. I definitely had enough room in my calorie count yesterday for them, too, but I was too embarrassed after Jill's comments to put them in the shopping cart.