I would get measurements taken. Last May was my highest weight of 192. About July-ish time I was around 175. I fell off wagon and in December I had an official weigh in at 177. That was after weeks of hitting the gym hard. I would say I was up in the 180's again. Anyways, I am 164 now, and minus a couple slip ups, I have been consistent with working out and fairly decent diet.
So I personally have only lost what around 20lbs in 5 months

HOWEVER, I have lost a ton of inches!! I am doing muscle strength, so I am building muscle and toning up. I might have an unrealistic goal of 135, I might be good at 150, only time will tell. Good luck on getting back to where you were when you first met your husband!
Sorry for the novel!