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Old 05-13-2008, 05:41 PM   #1
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today my loved BF decided to tell me that he needed some time for himself. that he needed to discover who he is, or in other words he dumped me, so i'm reallly sad, and i feel like eating everything!!
what can i do to make this hunger go away? help!!
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Old 05-13-2008, 05:43 PM   #2
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Go for a nice long walk in a park, it's so nice out today! Find a friend who doesn't mind walking for hours and talking it out. Or go to the gym and work out your frustration. This will get better, just know that, and don't let it make you think any less of yourself!
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Old 05-13-2008, 05:49 PM   #3
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I like to journal. I've been doing it for years. Whenever I feel completely down and out I'll find a comforting place to write. For me it's usually outside at a park or in my bedroom. Then I pour out all my emotions onto the paper. It's therapeutic getting it out of my system. Yes there have been times when I want to drown my sorrows in a pint of ice cream, but in the end it only makes me feel worse. Journaling always makes me feel better.

I'm sorry this happened, but stay strong! Someone who needs time away from you is definitely not worth your time anyway.
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Old 05-13-2008, 05:51 PM   #4
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talking with a friend is the best advice i have... if you can do that while walking as suggested above, even better! you'll get through this - and food isn't the easiest way to do that.
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Old 05-13-2008, 05:52 PM   #5
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I'm sorry to hear your bad news.
First you need to realize that you're not hungry for food, and that eating will not make your emotions (whether depressed, sad, angry, lonely) better.
Second, think about how you will feel if you go on a wild binge. I feel worse after I do. I feel fat and sick from eating so much, guilty and angry for what I did, and the lonely/sad/whatever emotions are still there too.
Third, choose to do something else. Call a friend to do something with, go for a walk, anything.
Again, I'm sorry. But food is NOT going to help. It will only make you feel worse.
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Old 05-13-2008, 05:54 PM   #6
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Oh no, I'm so sorry
Food is definitely not your answer... it'll only make you feel worse after it's all said and done, you know?
Journaling and talking with a friend are great things.. can you hang out with a close girlfriend? Have some fun
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Old 05-13-2008, 06:00 PM   #7
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Oh I'm so sorry.

Do not turn to food to comfort. Allow yourself to feel what you're feeling. Work it out in other ways. Are you angry? Hit something (something soft like a pillow). Are you sad? Write through it. Are you lonely? Call a friend to talk about it.

The quick comfort that food gives quickly turns into regret.
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Old 05-13-2008, 06:14 PM   #8
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thanx all, but i just feel like crap, but something just happened, i saw a photo of the two of us kissing, and all the hunger dissapeared, i don't know why, i just feel like crying for hours.
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Old 05-13-2008, 06:15 PM   #9
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i just feel like crying for hours.
Then by all means, cry for hours.

There has never been anything wrong with a good, long cry. In fact, sometimes that's what we needed to do in order to think straight again.
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Old 05-13-2008, 06:28 PM   #10
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Yep. Definately ok to cry.
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Old 05-13-2008, 06:28 PM   #11
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i second everything said here... im an emotional eater on the opposite scale, i eat when happy... i get thin when im down or single..

go see a girlfriend... and just have some you time... (hugs)
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Old 05-13-2008, 06:29 PM   #12
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I am so sorry no, food is not your friend in this situation. Food is there because your body needs it to "live long and prosper". You should try what some of our friends here have already suggested. Long walk...journaling (I find this incredibly helpful to me) and one thing I also find very helpful is to go on a cleaning binge. Instead of eating those feelings I grab a bucket, scrub brush and old clothes and I go scrub a bathroom or kitchen or something to take out all of those emotions and in the end I do feel a little better and the house looks great!

Hang in there dear, we have ALL been there, it hurts like heck but you will survive and be stronger for it in the end!

Take care of yourself...better than ANYONE else ever could!

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Old 05-13-2008, 09:12 PM   #13
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Like everyone has been saying, food is not the answer. Your feelings is the one being empty, not your stomach. Eating is not going to fill up your emotion. Try to drink lots of water whenever you feel like eating. Go clean the house. Go for a walk. Call friends..and stay away from kitchen.

We are here for you and he said he needs time to find out who he is. Who knows? Maybe he will really find out who he is and it may work out better for you in the long run. And if he ends up leaving, then it's really his LOSS.

And don't forget June 15!!! You can't be eating all that food, not until I take you to Outback~!!
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Old 05-13-2008, 09:21 PM   #14
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I know you are feeling great pain, but ask yourself if you want such an unkind, uncaring person in your life ?
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Old 05-13-2008, 09:39 PM   #15
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I'm sorry i know how it feels when my ex of 6yrs broke my heart the first time i binged and gained almost 20bs, and the second and last time he broke my heart i gained atleast 50lbs DONT DO IT YOU WILL REGRET IT! I was very sad, hurt, angry, frustrated you name it i felt it. One thing you can do which i did was blast the music in your room or living room and just dance around, i write so i would sit on my floor for hours with music blasting writing or pacing back and forth and dancing to the music and look on the bright side its exercise. I used to also just like to drive quietly think and even cry but with gas prices how they are i wont recommend that. Or if you have a beach near you grab your best buddy or go alone (dont go alone at night) and go sit on the beach and just think and talk and let it all out scream cry kick throw a tantrum just remember your going to find a perfect guy and if he needs to find himself let him but remember your a great person and deserve better
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