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catsnhorses · 07-30-2007, 11:05 AM

I did my bit

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I feel this is a violation of your terms of use, because it is a gratuitous attack on a particular group of people, namely women who are of larger than average size. It is also vulgar and offensive as the Description of the group is laced with profanity and foul language. It is sexist as it singles out large women, not large men, for attack. Thank you for your attention to this issue.

I don't care what you think, if you can't state your PoV without resorting to foul language then you are a pathetic wet noodle who does not deserve to be heard. So there.

Seriously, I hope the Facebook peeps pay attention...

Flutterby873 · 08-02-2007, 02:50 PM

I've been checking every so often, and disappointingly the group remains and seems to be going strong with 28 members now. I can only hope that facebook will get our message that this group is offensive on so many levels.

PinkSnowDays · 08-03-2007, 02:36 PM

Hey ladies! I also just reported it, thanks Penelope for the ideas!!

Tinky009 · 08-03-2007, 06:19 PM

I just reported them too!! It's just downright distasteful! Ugh!

chickadee315 · 08-03-2007, 09:43 PM

women are always harder on other women then men could ever be - i do it, i judge those that i view as obese but for me its more of i never want to get that fat and use it as more of a motivation to reach my goal.

jillybean720 · 08-04-2007, 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by chickadee315

women are always harder on other women then men could ever be - i do it, i judge those that i view as obese but for me its more of i never want to get that fat and use it as more of a motivation to reach my goal.

Not sure where this came from, but I will say I agree that women tend to be harder on women than men are--except in cases like this! I think we all judge other obese women to a point, but I don't think we're all so mean as to think, "man, I wish society didn't praise her for being like that! Then maybe she'd stop eating so many damn Twinkies!" The guys in this Facebook group are a special kind of stupid, judgmental, and mean.

I'm actually quite appalled that so many of us have reported their group, and yet not only has it not been deleted, but it's growing in members!

jillybean720 · 08-05-2007, 07:44 PM

I can't believe the group is STILL there. I went to MySpace and posted a bulletin asking all my friends who have Facebook accounts to go report the group. I ended up in tears as I wrote it, but here was my message:

If anyone has a Facebook account, please check this out: http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2788527461&ref=mf

It is absolutely appalling that although at least 10 different people have reported the group as being offensive, the group still exists. It may be funny for about 2 seconds to some, but it is offensive, hurtful, and downright ignorant to anyone who has EVER been overweight or even been friends with someone overweight (and you all know me, so you all fall into that category).

I can't even begin to express my venomous hatred for the sick, uneducated, shallow, closed-minded individual who started this group, and all of its like members. How can anyone say that our culture praises obesity? I've been overweight my whole life, and it has been the absolute worst thing I've ever had to live with. It starts out with getting made fun of throughout all of elementary and middle school (and even in high school from those few idiot boys that matured a bit later than others). Kids are absolutely mean and relentless. So yes, I spent about 12 years listening to others try to tell me I was basically unworthy of respect as a human being because of my weight. And now that I'm 25, not a day has ever gone by in my adult life that my weight has NOT been a negative issue.

No matter who you meet or where you go, it's always in the back of your mind that somehow your weight will cause an issue. Oh, maybe that guy at the party won't even look my way because I'm fat. Maybe no one will sit next to me or talk to me in class because I'm unattractive. Maybe some innocent little kid will be so bold as to wander up to me in public and so helpfully inform me that I am gigantic. Maybe I'll stop going to amusement parks for fear of the embarrassment of not being able to fit in some of the ride restraints. Maybe I'll avoid small local restaurants for fear of not fitting in the booth. Maybe I'll pray that when I'm out for a walk (trying to get some EXERCISE--isn't that what fat people are supposed to do?!), no one will "moo" at me as they drive by on the street.

I have the option of about 3 stores where I can go clothing shopping, not an entire mall full (and I'm very fortunate if ANY of those 3 stores happen to be in a mall). I have to give 120% at work and in life in general because fat people are typically viewed as being lazy. Being fat comes with a whole list of assumptions and generalizations people make about you (no, I do NOT sit on my butt all day watching Oprah and eating BonBons and Twinkies).

And so people give the enlightened suggestion: "Why don't you just lose weight?" JUST lose weight? Like it's that easy? Like the 25 years of mental demons just disappear in the blink of an eye? It's not like being an alcoholic where you can give up drinking or a smoker where you can stop buying cigarettes (not to say those are EASY to quit, but just as examples)--fat people still need to EAT food to live. I can't just give up food cold turkey or wear a calorie patch or chew some calorie gum. Sure, I'm welcome to pump my body full of diet pills (which are NOT regulated by the FDA and often do not include the ingredients listed on the bottle but DO include some harmful ingredients NOT listed on the bottle), but even their packaging says "not for extended use."

The problem is, I can start losing weight today, but guess what--I still won't be thin by tomorrow. Or the next day. It will take a LONG time, so even while I am working on improving myself, I still face all of the same adversity as if I had never even tried or cared.

I have to go now--moving some stuff into our new house. But I think I made my point. If you have a heart and even a shred of intelligence, you will realize that our society degrades, not praises, the obese. If you have a Facebook account, please go report the group--there is a little link at the bottom of the page that says "Report Group."

xDas7x · 08-06-2007, 01:47 AM

Wow thanks for the heads up about this little group. I think its complete BS. I'll also report the group, its just spewing hate and ignorance.

Tammy · 08-06-2007, 02:13 AM

I just stumbled upon this thread, and I went to Facebook right away and reported the group. I think it's a bunch of high school kids according to what it says with their pictures.

littleflip66 · 08-07-2007, 10:09 AM

The group is still there and up to 28 members, most of who are still in high school. I did my part and reported it, and got others to do it too.

Rachie8 · 08-07-2007, 01:34 PM

I reported it too. I can't believe this group is even on there.

Flutterby873 · 08-07-2007, 05:25 PM

Jill, thanks for those words. It really moved me since I have all of those same feelings myself.

I'm really dissappointed that with all of us reporting this stupid group, facebook has still done nothing about it. What's the point of having those regulations and the ability to report a group/user if they're not going to do anything about offensive language on their site?!? It really pisses me off.

magicalstasia · 08-11-2007, 01:21 PM

wow that group is so demeaning... I reported it too before I scrolled down to see that all of u had done it as well. But I say good for u all for reporting it...

channonenvy · 08-13-2007, 12:31 AM

That is AWFUL!
People can be so cruel and totally ignorant. Well I reported it too.

jillybean720 · 08-13-2007, 02:09 PM

What's the point of having a "report group" function if so many of us have reported it, yet it still is up and running?