Sweetie, YOU are the only one who said anything about leaving! No one has indicated they want you to leave. They just want the teams to be handled fairly and were trying to help you do that.
Please, just take the time to review what has been said, make the adjustments and then carry on with being the organizer of the black team or releasing it for someone else if it is too stressful for you...but don't take any of it personally!
Your team just wanted to help you out by addressing a few inconsistencies. I can understand how that could come across as criticism since in your non-net world you aren't feeling supported, but please try to look at things from another point of view. I don't think anyone was trying to "undermine" you by trying to clarify things!