Just like everything else with weight loss, maintenance calories aren't fair. But they are what they are.
It's all a matter of trial and error to figure out where you fall on the spectrum. Unfortunately, some of us are at the low end, like Robin, Mel, and me, while others are at the high end, like Glory and Heather. But, as with everything else in life, you play the hand of cards that you're dealt. I'm post-menopausal, hypothyroid, and have lost and gained hundreds of pounds in my lifetime, so I think I'm lucky where I am.
You learn to really maximize the bang for your buck with calories. And exercise just becomes part of your day. Luckily for me, exercise not only keeps the weight off but makes me feel good, so it's not hard to stay motivated.
Menopause is a huge problem for many women. We see lots of women joining my gym and despairing about their body changes (the "menopot" or "menopausal donut") when their hormones change. If you can lose the weight before you hit the menopausal quicksand, do it! It sure doesn't get any easier afterwards!