Gebbeth! Glad to have you with us...great questions!
Here's my take:
1a. How much do you have to lose? Rapidity of weight loss on SBD depends on two things: how much you have to lose (more weight= faster weight loss) and how unhealthy your diet was before starting. If you were eating tons of bad carbs, you are likely to lose faster now. If you were already eating an almost SBD lifestyle before, you are probably not going to lose too quickly.
1b. Everything I've read says that you can't target weight loss to an area of your body. I don't believe that your shape dictates how fast or slow you lose. However, people who have the most weight around their bellies are at the highest risk for health problems with their heart, as Dr. A mentions in the book.
2. Yes...extend P1 by the amount of days that had sugar in them. It's worth it to really get the sugar out of your system.
3. Yes, it's scary how much sugar is in everything!!! There's even sugar in canned kidney beans! What's that all about?
You can get some lunch meats with reduced amounts of sugars, but you'll find that the best option is to eat unprocessed meats. Of course, lunch meat is fast and easy, so sometimes it'll be in your diet. But when you're on P2, a small amount of sugar in the lunch meat won't be as much of a problem as in P1.
Glad to have you with us...hope you are feeling healthier even if the pounds aren't coming off as fast as you'd like.