Tina - I know I haven't posted here for a bit but I have been reading and I was so pleased to hear that the wet wipe thing was a misunderstanding.
I find myself torn when people complain about teachers for, while it is true that there are bad teachers out there, some people misinterpret necessary discipline as their kid being 'got at'. Also some children don't always report things as they happened, either deliberately or by mistake so I was not sure whether to interpret the story as the teacher being overly harsh or your daughter (forgive me) being a little economical with the truth. My dd is the exact same age as yours and she does tell lies to get herself out of trouble, as many of that age do without compunction.
So, I am so glad it was all a big misunderstanding.