[Peppahmint]

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but where is that forum.. i miss it!

[Meg]

Don't worry - it's at the very top of the forums page! Look here Success Stories.

[Tealeaf]

Well, sorta.

It's now divided into the catagories "Goal" and "Mini Goals".

Personally, I think that two don't add up to the same as the old. I personally am not at goal, I have about 50 pounds to go. And I don't set "mini goals" for myself. I have a new way of life, I am slowly but surely losing weight, and I don''t have a set timetable for me to do so.

It is possible to have success without having it tied to the concept of goals. Hey, I had to buy new housecoats this weekend because I was simply swimming in my old ones (true story). It feel like a success to me, but it certianly wasn't a goal that I had thought of in any way. I might have mentioned it were there a general Success story forum that were not directed to the concept of "goals".

This isn't my board, of course, and I have nothing to do with the way it is organized or run. Still, I feel that getting rid of the general Success Story forum was an unfortunate act.

[teahoney]

I understand how you feel tealeaf but most of the posts started in the mini-goals forum are not even goal related just NSVs similar to yours. So don't be afraid to use that forum just because you don't like the wording. I would have loved to read your housecoat story and anything else ya got.

[Misti in Seattle]

Annie, I really miss the Success Stories section also... it was my favorite one here. I agree that Mini Goals is just not the same. I don't set them either and agree with you completely about having successes which have nothing to do with goals. the forum has not been quite the same since the section disappeared... I admit I feel "funny" about posting my stuff there too because a lot of my NSVs have nothing to do with goals, which somehow seem to be deemed more important. But oh well... we work with what we've got.

And Tracey I know what you mean... I do post some there but always feel as if I really shouldn't be since mine are not really goals met. But I do hope others will go ahead and share theirs too... as I said, that was my favorite section of the forum and I was really disappointed to see it disappear.

Annie, thanks for sharing about your housecoats! Enjoy your new smaller ones!! Yay for you!!! I hope you will keep right on posting your NSVs!! I personally DO want to hear them and they are an encouragement to me!

[penpal]

Originally Posted by Tealeaf

It is possible to have success without having it tied to the concept of goals.

Me 'three' Annie! I don't know why, but maybe it's just the title of the forum 'mini goals' that puts me off. I don't post on success stories much anymore. Most of the successes I've had have been pleasant surprises (like your housecoats), not 'mini goals' per se.

I enjoy browsing around all the other forums on this site but I do miss the old "Success Stories" format. I'm very grateful, though, to all the people who make this site possible, as I'd be lost without it!

P.S. Thanks again for posting the Friday weigh-in thread. I always get such a kick out of your kitty avatar!

[Misti in Seattle]

Originally Posted by penpal

I'm very grateful, though, to all the people who make this site possible, as I'd be lost without it!

Yes!!! Same here!!!

[Tealeaf]

Originally Posted by teahoney

I understand how you feel tealeaf but most of the posts started in the mini-goals forum are not even goal related just NSVs similar to yours. So don't be afraid to use that forum just because you don't like the wording. I would have loved to read your housecoat story and anything else ya got.

All the more reason to have just a general success story forum, to my way of thinking. The fact that people are using the mini goal forum the way we used to use the success story forum just illustrates the need for it.

I know that this might make me sound pretty hard headed, and I apologize for that. It's not a case that I am afraid to use the goal forum, more that I don't as a form of protest. I don't just dislike the wording, I have very strong feelings on this issue.

I think that people who are trying to get fit are put under too much pressure to have goals, which usually take the form of "Lose X pounds by X date". This is fine and dandy if they hit that goal, much less so if they don't. "Hey, I said I wanted lose 10 pounds by July 4th; I've only lost 5. I've failed!" Um, no. Losing any weight is not a failure. But how many people just get discouraged and give up when they don't make a goal? Judging from what I've seen on the time I've been on this board, a goodly number.

Equating the idea of success with the concepts of goals is just plain wrong and hurtful, in my opinion.

I also don't see the need for this from a stylistic point of view. There is a forum for those who have hit main goal. There is also a Maintence forum, for those who have hit goal and now want to keep the weight off. I don't see the need for both forums. I mean, who wants to hit goal and then gain it all back?

I can understand that the admins don't want there to be too many forums, and I am definately on board with that. There is another diet support forum I go to that has so many forums that it's hard to find what you are looking for, or remember where you might have posted what. But getting rid of a popular forum to basically introduce redundancy just doesn't make sense to me.

Ok, I've rambled enough. Thanks for the encouragement about the house coat thing. Somehow, I never really considered that I might shrink out of my old ones!

[ledom]

I miss the way the old success thread was set up as well.

[teahoney]

Well when you put it that way tealeaf, I definitely feel where you are coming from. Maybe the PTB will read this thread and re-word it. And if they don't and you ever have an NSV you want to share, feel free to pm me. I'd love to hear it.

[penpal]

Originally Posted by Tealeaf

I think that people who are trying to get fit are put under too much pressure to have goals, which usually take the form of "Lose X pounds by X date".

It always makes me so sad when I read posts from newcomers who want to lose 20 lbs. in a month or two for a wedding or other special occasion. I know how desperate one feels sometimes to look good for these events. However, from many past failed attempts, I know they have very little chance of success and will be so discouraged that they will give up and perhaps even gain more weight. These repeated failures are so hard on our self-esteem (not to mention our bodies) and I wish there was less emphasis in our culture on the 'quick fix' mentality.

[Misti in Seattle]

Actually the reason I don't set goals such as losing by a certain date etc is that I want my goals to be something that it is up to ME as to whether or not I achieve them. I decide, for example, whether I go out and exercise however many minutes in a week or month... but I don't have control over how much weight I lose by a certain date. And a LOT of my NSVs are... as said here... totally unexpected or things I never really thought about but are pleasant surprises. And it's not that I am hesitant to post them in the Mini Goals section out of any type of "fear" -- but rather it seems they are inappropriate there. Still it's a GREAT place here at 3FC and nice to have such wonderful support and encouragement.

Just thoughts.