[ThisGirlsLosing]

WELCOME !!!

We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.

We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We often use a "Topic of the Day" for discussion.

Motivational Monday
Tuesday Tips
Wednesday Wish List .. and What you are doing to obtain it.
Thankful Thursday
FUN Friday ... don't wait until you lose your weight.
Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Share your Success Sunday

These are not required topics ...just ideas to share. We often find them very helpful. We also share heartaches and fears ... joys and celebrations.

We have several extra threads going on simutaneously such as Monthly Challenges, Weekly Weigh-ins, Recipes, Bios, and more. Please feel free to check them all out.

We have found this thread to be more than just a support group...we have found it to become a home. We invite you to join us.

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[ThisGirlsLosing]

You know how sometimes you know you have to do what is best for you, and you hate having to do it, but you know it's the only choice?

Well ::::::: deep sigh :::::::::::::: I've decided my relationship is not working. It hasn't been working for a long, long time - perhaps since close to the beginning.

So, as of today, I am single again.

This is going to be so incredibly hard. I just pray I don't "hit the food" because of it.

Wish me luck and, if you are so inclined, please pray for me and my broken heart.

[2LosinIt]

MariaLucia --- I know that there is a lot that goes on away from here, but that sounded so out of the blue! You were just talking about the formal you're going to and then you're single. wow. So sorry for any pain you might be in----ending relationships can be so painful, whether you are the one ending it or not. Be gentle with yourself for awhile... you can make it without turning to food.

[ZedAus]

Maria Lucia - I have no doubt that you have put a lot of thought into this and that you know you have done the right thing for YOU, both for your physical and mental health. I truly believe you can come out of this positively and you will not make bad lifestyle choices because of this decision. If anything, it will possibly make you stronger and more determined to take control of other parts of your life now you have finally decided to take control of this part.

Having read posts from you over the past little while, I have gained a sense of how strong you are, even though you may not realise it yourself yet. You have SO much to give to others as well and I think it is now time to give a little to yourself, without thinking of how it might hurt or affect others. You deserve the best and you may have just made the most important decision you possibly could to ensure you get the best.

Well... that was a rather 'deep' way of telling you that I believe in you and I will be thinking of you as you adapt to this change. Please know that I am always here to 'listen' and help where I can.

Take care,

Zelma

[dogpal]

Hi Ladies. Happy Easter!

Crystal: I'm sure you will fall in love with all the wonderful people here. I just love everyone. Great support place.

Lilion: Wow, it sounds like you have been so busy with fixing up your trailer. I sure hope that someone super nice rents it from you and cares for it like it is their own!

Zelma: Great Quotes! Thank you for sharing them with us.

Valerie: I would love a visit from you anytime! How awesome would that be!!

Xena: Wow girl! - 6.4 pounds you Keep up the great work.

Angela: Back. Glad that you came back!

2losinit: - 5 pounds! Awesome girl.

Mscrockett: Sounds like you have a great eating plan all worked out for Easter weekend! Great idea to be ready.

MariaLucia: I will be praying that you won't be too down and broken hearted. I know anytime things change for better or worse it is often very hard at first. Just try to think about how wonderful you have been feeling in your body and how you want to stay feeling that way.

Julee: Contrats on joining "It Figures" So glad you were able to find someplace that you feel like you can get a good workout! Happy Passover to you also!

Jillybean: Congrats on your -2.5 that is awesome! Way to go.

Toofatforu2: Good luck!

Sharon: I call yard work great exercise! Good job

nancy: I will be praying that you get some good news medically! So sorry you are going through this right now.

Wyllenn: Beautiful pictures. I looked at your before pics you look like a different person. you look so slender in your little black dress.

As for me: I have been feeling really sick to my stomach just like I was told would probably happen. I have not had one panic attack since starting this medication though. I don't know if it is a coincidence or what but I am so hopeful for things to get better now. Everyone have a blessed Easter. I sure miss Catherine, Lori, Futurediva, Christine,Amy, Brandnewme and Ammi all of you come back when you can!

[ZedAus]

Well, I’m not sure I’m going to get individuals done, but I’ll try after my update on what I’ve been up to.

I had to chuckle yesterday when I was shopping for a bra. Well, the shopping for a bra bit didn’t make me laugh, because it is very hard to find something to fit my ‘socks’ now. I had a lovely assistant helping me, and she was wondering why I didn’t know my size. When I told her I had lost 87kg she was SO excited and wanted to share my loss with EVERYONE! She kept calling people over to tell them. It was so funny. I ended up buying a beautiful bra, that is very flattering, but I have to spend quite a bit of time getting everything tucked in. Oh well, these are the things that are sent to challenge us and keep us on our toes. I’ll take being fitter and healthier than having ‘pert’ breasts any day if that is what I have to give up.

Hubby and I went for a beautiful walk along the river on Friday. We walked along a different section and went past the resort/casino. We have walked past there lots of times and often said it would be nice to actually stay there. Well, we are going to make a reservation for next week. I have already booked to have my hair done in the morning, then we will go into the city for a wander before heading out to the casino. I am planning to have a lovely dinner, then go to the casino. I want to get all dressed up and REALLY celebrate my weight loss. This is going to be my treat to myself for all of my hard work and perseverance. I have already bought a LOT of clothes for a reward, but this will be the icing on the cake. I want to get another photo to put into my competition entry, so one with me all dressed up might be nice. The following morning we plan to get up nice and early and go for a lovely walk before breakfast. It all sounds just so wonderful. We can’t REALLY afford this type of luxury, but I think I have earned it. I’ll worry about putting more into savings later.

On a totally different note, I was noticing yesterday how much my complexion has improved. I have such ‘smooth, silky’ skin now. I only realized it when I was sitting at the computer reading a long post and I had my head resting on my hands. I started stroking my face with my hands and I really liked what I felt! I know… another REALLY vain moment! Getting bad aren’t I? I am sure that a big reason my skin has improved is because of how well I’m feeding it from the inside. I am also taking a lot more care of it now, and I’m cleansing and moisturizing it twice a day most days. It is just lovely to have nice skin for the first time in a LONG time – perhaps since I was a kid. I have been prone to blemishes and dry patches and oily patches… you name it, I’ve probably had it. Makeup goes on MUCH smoother when your skin is in better condition. Just another bonus of the change in lifestyle.

OH! I made myself a treat for lunch the other day and absolutely loved it!!!! I made my own mini pizzas. I used 9-Grain English muffins. I had one cut open (so two halves) with a smear of salsa. Then I put on chunks of chicken breast, pineapple, green pepper and onion. I then put a minimal amount of reduced fat cheese (we could only get 25% fat free at the local shop, but now have 50% fat free for the next ones) on top and we grilled them. YUMMMMM!!!!! I am definitely going to make them again. This week for sure! I know you are all probably wondering why I am so excited about having these, but I have been SO good for SO long and I knew that I just didn’t want to get anything takeaway to eat as my body just doesn’t ‘like’ takeaway food and I really didn’t ‘need’ it. I have been meaning to make my own pizzas for a while, just never got around to it. I am actually glad I waited this long, as I’m sure they were even more delicious because of the wait. At least now I have something nice and warm for when the weather really cools down. I also had my vegetable sticks/pieces to help fill me up. I always like to start my lunch with that as it takes ages to chew and I feel as though I am having a lot more than I am. Mostly just celery and carrot, with some broccoli, cauliflower, green beans and red pepper, depending on what I have cut up already in the fridge.

I have noticed that a few people have been missing lately and I hope that they are just resting, or holidaying, or perhaps have time to read but not post. I certainly hope that nothing is wrong. If any of you are reading this, please know that we are thinking of you and look forward to hearing from you when you are up to it or have the time.

Lilion – I sounds as though you worked really hard on getting the trailer back in renting condition. I hope your new tenant looks after it better than the old one. How disappointing for you!
I hope you are having a wonderful time at the SCA event this weekend. We have had a VERY quiet Easter weekend so far, but it has been nice to wind down after a busy term at school. I’m glad I have another two weeks to get housework and school work organized as I wasn’t motivated at all to get any done this weekend. Oh, and I hope you don’t have TOO many sausages and managed to take some healthier choices with you.

Valerie – I hope you are making some progress on the home front with decisions you had to make. Being on the road all the time must take its toll, both emotionally and physically. I know that I couldn’t do it, and I think it would be great for you to at least cut back on the time away, if not find something totally different to do.

Xena – Well done on the weight loss!!!!! You are doing VERY well.

Jill – Congratulations on the great weigh in!!! I’m sure you are doing just fine with losing weight at the rate you are. I’m sure you were just kidding about keeping up with Kayley, so I won’t nag you about not trying to compete with others. Can you hear my ‘teacher’ voice creeping in there?
I hope you are having a wonderful Easter weekend away (despite the smoke smell and the creepy crawlies) and I’m sure you enjoyed yourselves celebrating Jeff’s birthday.

Nancy – How did the dinner with your stepmother go? I can certainly relate to not wanting to cook for company. I HATE cooking and don’t do a good job of it when I do, so I much prefer to buy something or just make a simple salad and an easy meat to go with it. That is pretty much what my FIL and his wife ate while they stayed with us and they really enjoyed it.
Wasn’t it weird that the specialist didn’t expect to see the fibroid so big? As you said, didn’t she believe the doctor? Or does she think that they all exaggerate? I hope you have no trouble with the MRI and they can find a way to treat this that is the least invasive as possible, causing the least amount of permanent damage.

Ammi – I don’t think I’ve heard from you since your doctor’s visit. I’m assuming that you finally managed to make it there, seeing as you said you were trying for later in the week. If you didn’t make it I will forgive you, and won’t start nagging until next week.
I have the same problem you have with hubby not liking butternut pumpkin, but I LOVE it! I never buy it often enough, as I don’t really think of it when we are grocery shopping, but I definitely want to have some over winter, as it is a favourite winter vegetable. I love pumpkin soup!

Angela – I only started coming here fairly recently, so haven’t seen you before. It is great that you have someone close by to join you on your journey. My hubby has changed his eating habits as I’ve changed mine, but his work is fairly physical, so he doesn’t join me with the exercising. That’s OK though, because I have the equipment at home and just mostly workout in front of the TV while I catch up on news and current events. I look forward to reading more from you.

Mel – Well done on your loss!! (I always feel funny saying that because we usually offer sympathy with someone’s loss.) But you just deserve congratulations! You have done VERY well. Isn’t it great to see your hard work paying off?
I would love to see Mama Mia, but I don’t think it has been here yet.

MsCrockett – I’m glad you have planned some healthy food for yourself while the kids have their chocolate. I hope you managed to stick to your plans. I have to admit that I was very glad that I HAD to give up chocolate a couple of years before I decided to change my lifestyle. My bladder just did NOT like the caffeine, so I gave up chocolate and my beloved iced coffees. Those two would have been the hardest to give up if I was just ‘choosing’ to do so, so being MADE to do so was much easier. I think I could actually have them again now, but I have gone without them for so long that I just don’t want to have them any more.
Well done on fitting into those smaller clothes. You are lucky you had them saved from before. I have never been this small as an adult, so have had to just buy an entire new winter wardrobe. I LOVE shopping, but it hasn’t been easy on the pocket.

Julee – It is wonderful that you have found a new gym that sounds just right for you. What a great step in the right direction! I hope you keep finding it just as great as your first couple of visits.
I hope you had a great time at Disneyland!
I think I may have to get some quinoa and try it. I’ve never even seen it cooked before, let alone cooked it myself, but you make it sound so easy.

Kayley – I hope you had a wonderful night out. I look forward to seeing more upbeat posts from you, as you deserve to be having a wonderful life! I am SO glad that Andrew didn’t have a hernia. OUCH! Pulled muscles are bad enough. I’m glad he’s on the mend.

Amy – I am SO glad that you and Nat have decided that it would be better for you to live closer. It may take a while to organize, but at least it gives you something to look forward to. As you say, at least there is no rush and you will have time to pick and choose when it comes to a new job.

Oops… I’m going to have to add more tomorrow. Poor hubby has just come in and said he was going to bed. I have been at this WAY too long. Catch you all tomorrow!

Take care,

Zelma

[mokster]

ok well im new lol and im a very interesting case..... lol i weigh way over 300 but i work at Krispy Kreme crazy aint it? I been working there over 3 years.. I have been big all my life but im sure this job has helped me get bigger.. Everytime i try to start a diet i give up if not that night then the next day.. i plan to have a bran new fresh start today.. i was just woundering has anyone else just felt like they half to fight with them self. everytime junk food comes around..

[Heather]

Maria Lucia -- Even though you think it's the right choice doesn't make it an easy one, does it? Good luck and keep us posted!

mokster -- WELCOME!! I think you'll find most of us understand the fight with ourselves not to eat junk food. For me, this time around, things are easier, but partly because I try to keep "trigger" foods out of the house. And I don't work at krispy kreme That's tough.

[going to lose 200]

Hi Everyone!

Well this past 3 days have been a joke.... no exercise, AWFUL foods!, and the worst part was I enjoyed every second of it.

Now we are heading to Easter dinner in about an hour and I don't even feel like I want to try to control myself. I have no idea where my self control is.

Tomorrow..... isn't that the most awful word. All weekend I have been using it. I have let the holiday weekend be my excuse. Tomorrow I will be ready to try again.....

I tossed my deep fryer this week. I think that is my NSV of late. It was a very nice one but since hubby and I hadnt dug it out of the cupboard since July I figured we should get rid of the clutter..... Yea!

I am in the process of dying my hair so I don't have much time for personals until after supper. 3 quick ones though

Mokster.... Welcome!! If we get too "girlie" for you just let us know *L*

Dogpal..... glad to hear from you and that your meds seem to be doing there job

MariaLucia.... sorry you are going through this...Allow it to make you more detirmined than ever!

Until tonight.....

Brenda

[Angela_aka_Alice]

Hi all,

The decision to journal even though I'm not yet making a commitment to food change is a good one. It's easy enough to write down what I've eaten, but as I wrote down Easter brunch I realized most of it was unnecessary. This is going to help motivate me.

MariaLucia, I don't know you dear, but I'm sending positive thoughts your way. If it's not right for you, getting out is the best things you can.

Wyellen, dogpal, Zelma, Thanks for the encouragement and the welcome back.

Zelma, you're very inspiring.

Mokster, How's that brand new start going? I've been through a million of them, which is why I'm going slow this time, not trying to do everything at once. Just a few small goals, things I KNOW I can do if I only will... and then I'll add something else in a week or so.

Brenda, I love your cheerleaders!

Hugs to anyone I missed.

[Sandi D]

HI
do you all feel doing a journel really helps??
do you really go back and read it
Happy Easter
sandi

[MsCrockett]

Whatever I Write In My Journal , I Review It In 3 Days, And If I Still Feel The Same Way, I Am Right,, If Not, I Rethink!

[RaeRae]

The last 2 days have been awful. Saturday was my daughters first birthday and then Easter today. I will get right back onto the diet ASAP but it still sucks that I just started and already fell off alittle.

mokster- I am new myself and still trying to get the hang of the site and the whole diet things.

[Heather]

Crystal -- What helps me after days like that is to think about WHY I went off plan... especially if I felt I was out of control.

For instance, if I eat more than I had planned because I was so hungry, I think about how I can solve that problem in the future -- eat food beforehand.

Sometimes that happens because I don't know what choices I will have eating somewhere else -- how can I solve THAT problem?

Sometimes I eat to much because I just, well, the food is in front of me and I eat it. I have found this to be the thorniest problem. But I am learning to remove the food, or myself from the food I don't want to eat, and have other options I really like to eat anyway. For example, don't want to cave and eat dessert? Bring some cut up strawberries for everyone, and just eat those.

I find the reflection afterward -- without beating myself up about the slip -- is key.

Last night I went out with friends for dinner and everyone got dessert. I split one with someone, even though I wasn't craving one, hadn't planned to eat one, and would have been satisfied with coffee. As it turns out, I was within my calorie limit for the day even with the dessert, but it wasn't planned or really wanted, and that is the part that concerns me. I am hoping that I didn't do it because I am feeling so successful and smug and think I can get away with that crap on a regular basis. I can't. I do not want to return to my old ways (eating whatever). So I think the next time that decision point comes (and I don't want it), I am just going to say no. I need to continue that trend.

Anyway, sorry to ramble. My point is: don't beat yourself up about it, but use it as an opportunity to learn WHY you eat!

[kayleystar]

Maria - So sorry to hear about your relationship ending. That's always so hard.

Zelma - Hon, you are not vain...and I know when I get to goal, I'll be that way, too. From not looking in the mirror EVER to constantly looking at my reflection. Or should I make that, in a good way. I'm constantly looking in the mirror, and hating what I'm seeing. I can't wait to be in your situation!

Mokster - Hope you can deal with the "chick chat" here, and get much inspiration!