Tara, I think what you've been reading is the all too human propensity to gather together and be miserable. Oh we enjoy, enjoying each others triumphs ... but there's nothing like co-misery to bring folks together.
Nobody wants to hear that my husband adores my new slender torso.
I have another thought that is kind of nebulous and might get me in trouble. But, here I go any way. Despite the plethora of discombobulating information there is on the internet etc. weight loss really is a simple principle. I must feed myself less and I must make myself move more. The dratted personal responsibilty thing rearing it's ugly head again.
You see, it's more forgiveable for me to fail if I have a few strikes against me. It's not really my fault if I quit ... if manufacturers mislabel products, my mother fed me butter, I have a family history of obesity, my husband buys me chocolate ...
I once asked a gal if she knew her husband thought (what she said she thought he thought) if he'd actually said it out loud or if she just thought he thought it. Did she want to run it past him for clarification? She didn't answer.
There's a lot more comfort in having 12 responders say "oh you poor darling! you deserve so much better, no wonder you can't lose weight"
I've been married a long time. Sometimes I have to smell what my husband is thinking but it always works better if I ask for clarification and make sure I truly understand what he said.
If you want any clarification about that hethoughtshethought business. I'll try